Advice please!

[Tillievanilly]

I have been single a few years and have dated on and off over the last year. I met a guy who ticked a lot of boxes recently. I realised afterwards that we clicked. So after a few dates and a lot of conversation he does a complete backtrack. He was more keen than me from the start. I’m very logical and like to protect myself. He was asking about potential holidays, weekends together while I tried to slow things down. I was wary of this but I still liked him. Turns out he wasn’t over his ex it had been 7 months since they separated her choice. Despite telling me he was looking for a life partner and I was one of the nicest people he has met etc. He has decided to have therapy. I guess I’m in a place where I know it’s hard to find someone to click with. I’m wondering if he will have therapy and realise what he walked away from. I’ve chosen to take time out from dating for now. Any advice wise mum netters?

[choixduroi]

I would say that this situation isn't about you, but about him. All the niceness and loveliness that you bring will find its match in another person who is able to love you back now, and not at some distant time in the future. Try not to think that because you clicked with him you won't find anyone else to click with, but rather that you obviously are finding people you click with, in this case he had an unfortunate issue that precluded him being able to take the step with you - and this won't be the case with another guy. I would say be nice to yourself, keep being logical and know that you will attract something even better into your life. As someone who has been around the block a lot!!!

[choixduroi]

I mean, I have been round the block, not you!!