Hi. We've been together nearly 30 years, married for 15. For the last few years since the kids have been older me & DH seem to have drifted apart as a couple. we have nothing in common anymore. We're friends & rarely argue or bicker but recently it's like living with a housemate rather than a partner. On an evening he sits in one room watching TV I sit in another watching TV. He doesn't have any real interests other than watching TV. There's no intimacy & hasn't been for quite a while. He just doesn't seemed bothered where as I miss it. He's been sleeping in the spare room for over a year now. I initially suggested it at a time when he was snoring really bad & I was Menopausal & shattered by not sleeping. However, he's stayed there & shows no sign of returning to our shared room. I'm starting to get bored with our relationship as there's just nothing there anymore. I have tried talking to him telling him how I feel & that things need to change so we're back to being husband & wife again but he doesn't seem to do anything to make things better. When I ask if he's happy he says he is but I'm not. how do we get back on track?
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Bobbotgegrinch · 27/03/2024 14:50
What are you doing to fix it?
There's a lot about what's wrong there but nothing about how you're trying to resolve it.
He's happy, you're not, so what do you need to be happy. Nights out? Organise them. More sex? Are you initiating it. So far it's sounds like you're complaining but not doing anything to try and fix it.
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