My best friend, mid-life, 3 kids (uni to primary school age) happy on the surface, but looks broken. Been married for 20+ years - 'nice bloke' but awful husband/Dad, he's shouty and sulky. From what she says, he withholds money. She does EVERYTHING, and enabling the cycle as the kids now treat her like her DH does. The kids are 'wary' of the Dad because of the shouting/moods. She's close with her family, but no-one seems to see/do anything. On the surface they're a nice/regular family, but from what I know, the reality is far from it.
Is there anything I can do to help her (see sense)? She'll have a moan about him, but we've never discussed the actual facts/reality of the situation - I worry that it would be too much for her to face. She's very loyal to him. I don't know what to do, I feel like life is getting worse for her.