Boyfriends

[Momma2024]

Hi guys
this is going to be a long one, I’m sooo suck with some advice and just what to do really in general. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years don’t get me wrong it wasn’t always the sweetest we would constantly brake up get back together we started dating at 14 we are now 23/24, just lately I’m getting so tried we constantly argue about the smallest things I ask him to help about out with bills , just general things and he only does every once in a while. I sit here like today and wish we was kids again, we both want different things in life I just want to live day by day and he wants to travel and do all these nice things which is good for him don’t get me wrong we both have kids together and I’m more just into making sure their lives are perfect then mine, I just feel so disconnected towards him, we have dates night, family nights all of that stuff I just don’t know what I want anymore, which I talk to him all the time but it just ends up into a big argument and I’m tried off it all, some days I love him some days I don’t. He’s all Iv ever known but I feel like now we’ve grown up life’s just not what we planned as 14 year olds

[SamW98]

Ill be honest, you were children when you met and as you’ve grown into adulthood, you’re becoming very different people who have different life goals.

Its sad but this is why childhood sweethearts rarely survive into adult relationships.

You want different lives - you need to work out if you can compromise or whether the time has come to say goodbye.

[BMW6]

You've grown up and away from each other.

Children at 14. Now adults and different of course.

It's a pity you had children before you'd grown up but here you are.

What to do? Separate, get CM from him (doesn't sound like he would want custody) and make new lives for yourselves.

Try and get him to continue a good relationship with his children, but if he's set on travelling.......

[Momma2024]

Having the kids young wasn’t something that played a part in it, his dad left move away his Nan died, my mum died all in the same year, I would never take him for his money as I’m financially stable, we was kids yes but i grew up a lot quicker then why he did I had to, I think that’s why I’m so unsure on where we are suppose to go forward I love him but am I in love with him, he wouldn’t take custody as he knows himself the kids would be better just staying with me full time and just seeing them days in the week & every other weekend our kids have a lot of social activities throughout the week and he works nights maybe we just aren’t doing enough together?….

[Momma2024]

I agree I really do l, he wants to travel see the world but I don’t, I just want to live each day as it comes with the kids. I love him more then anything I just don’t know if I’m in love with him anymore, and it’s sad because we made it this far and 10 years seems so long just to give up