Is anyone constantly on the receiving end of phubbing , I am trying so hard not to let it be the straw that breaks this camels back but am finding it hard.
A bit of research says theres a few red flags if its affecting your relationship and this isnt the only thing but I think im going to let the party involved have their relationship with their phone ,
I am divested enough now to let the past be the past and probably look to a brighter future without the post sex reach for facebook ,
AIBU
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Withalifelessordinary · 26/03/2024 19:44
LeoTheLeopard · 27/03/2024 06:58
With my ex, this was a symptom of the state of the relationship. Basically there was nothing to say that didn’t lead to bad feelings.
The scrolling after sex was a way of self-calming after a coerced experience.
My suggestion is that you need to look a lot deeper.
WhisperGold · 27/03/2024 10:26
Go to the bathroom, come back 3 mins later. 90% of people will be on their phone.
GreyCarpet · 27/03/2024 06:53
This is where boundaries are very useful.
What is acceptable to you?
What you you prefer to be doing instead?
You're absolutely right, you can't tell someone else what to do but you can decide what you will put up with so explain how you feel and, if he keeps on doing it, get up,leave the room and do something else instead.
Personally, I'd do something he'd notice. Just going into the kitchen or having a bath will have no impact on him beyond being left alone to continue in peace. I'd go out.
I'd say nothing, go upstairs, get changed and leave the house.
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