UNSUPPORTIVE DH

[strawberryblue]

Hello all,

I just need a vent and a friendly ear feeling very shit right now

I passed my driving test after trying for a long time/ I never gave up but I am not what u call a natural driver I am very much an anxious driver but I will not give up or let it beat me

Anyway I got a car (2 days ago) driven for the first time today it's different to what I have learnt in

Driven with dh in passenger seat

When asked him a simple q like "am I too close do u think" "I think this is the headlights" met with a triage of abuse saying why don't you know it's common sense how did you pass your going to crash bla bla

I drove fine

I just wanted a little support from my other half who is an amazing driver and I just got put down the whole way- I always support him in everything always without even asking

Anyway I don't plan to ask him anything again I will study my handbook drove my car loads alone and get used to it myself

Just feeling a bit meh

I've heard it said that it's only after you pass your test that you start to learn how to drive. You may need to ask a friend who may be more supportive to sit with you? I'm a nervous passenger maybe your husband is the same?

Dick head. Do u think he unhappy thats u r not dependent on him for lifts anymore?

Thank you @Buzzer3555 that's what I'm going to do x

Congratulations on passing

@BCBird funny you say that as I was thinking that/ I have been very dependant on him because we are a bit cut off where we live

Did you say sarcastically "thanks for the support babe"

Yay! Congratulations on passing your test!! I found it really hard and drove like a snail in absolute silence when I first passed my test. Your DH should of course been supportive but that’s obviously not his thing. Don’t let him spoil your achievement- maybe you are good at lots of things and he was enjoying being one step ahead of you in the driving game?
My DH is also crap at support, so know how you feel!
It’s a big well done from me!

@frozendaisy I did actually
Say your not supportive at all and he just sort of repeated everything he said but worse and now not talking to me (not that I care)

@LostNFoundSV thank you
So
Much your
Message made me cry 😭 I am
Proud of
Myself as I wasn't sure I would ever get to
This point and it just feels all
A bit crappy today

His behaviour could come back to him with a vengeance if he wants you to drive so he can have a drink !!

Just point out to him how uncomfortable he is with you at the wheel so he will always be the designated driver.😁

Miserable twat isn’t he?
Congratulations! Took me a few goes.
Go out in your car with your experienced driver friends and leave him at home. Enjoy your new sense of freedom!

🎉

Aw bless you - sending a virtual hug. You deserve all the glory for your hard work and am sure we all feel so proud of you! Passing your test is massive, especially when it doesn’t come so naturally. Don’t ever let him steal your sunshine!

Thank you @Catoo x I have a lovely friend round tomorrow with the same car to help me get familiar xx

Well no lifts for him then! It's fucking nerve-wracking driving alone for weeks /months after passing your test. I helped my ex partner learn to drive and used to go with him after he passed to help and support him with his confidence. Isn't that what partners do?

@Shiningout exactly
And that's all
I wanted really just a bit of support from a very confident and experienced driver he was just horrible

Thank you all
For making me feel alot better x

Congratulations! You are going to make massive progress in the coming days and your confidence and self esteem are going to make leaps and bounds!

Forget your DP. He is a real joy killer. He should be proud of you.

But don't let him get to you. Go & shine !!!

Thank you @Whataretalkingabout I am determined to drive every day to build my confidence! X