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Vacumwondering · 26/03/2024 18:04

Recent relationship break up - thread here https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5029752-i-think-i-have-done-a-terrible-thing?page=24&reply=134058484

I now need all of your hard and fast advice as to how to survive the next few days/weeks please!

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Helpimfalling · 26/03/2024 18:09

I'm here right now in the same situation so will be watching this thread.

Currently reading woman who love too much.

Trying to not freak out x

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Vacumwondering · 26/03/2024 18:13

Helpimfalling · 26/03/2024 18:09

I'm here right now in the same situation so will be watching this thread.

Currently reading woman who love too much.

Trying to not freak out x

Wishing you all the best!

I felt powerful for like a day and now I just feel like shit 😔

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Emmylou22 · 26/03/2024 18:29

I'm going through a breakup. I initially called it off in December but I wavered and stupidly decided to give it another shot. Some things got better. Others stayed the same. I finally ended it 5 days ago. I am 100% certain this time.

We're currently living in the same house. Thankfully it's big enough for us to have our own space. Things are too raw to discuss finances and longterm living arrangements. I've lost any anger or hatred towards him and just feel sad really. He seems to have accepted it. Having been emotionally shut down for years, he's only just started opening up to me. He's devastated at the thought I'll be with someone else one day. I can't feel sorry for him as he had me, yet he took me for granted and regularly treated me poorly. I deserve better.

Sorry OP. I didn't mean to derail your thread! It does help to talk to others also going through the shit time. How are you feeling?

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Helpimfalling · 27/03/2024 08:58

I feel like a teenager being so upset, honestly it's pathetic.

I think my worst fear is he will be with someone else which obviously will happen but at this moment in time it's one of the only things holding me back:

Also I know he will probably be useless to her too but...

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Vacumwondering · 27/03/2024 09:18

thank you both for sharing, I completely agree that it’s better to talk about it.

It just sucks.

I’m in that phase where I can only remember (the small) amounts of good times and it’s making me thing it wasn’t that bad when it was.

Getting my nails done today and booked my hair but feel so flat

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Emmylou22 · 27/03/2024 10:20

I've written a list on the notes app on my phone. It's of the occasions he was horrible to me or stroppy with my daughter or how he made me feel. It might help you to refer back to a list of the bad things. I don't really feel positive or nostalgic about my ex now - it's literally like a switch went off in my head and I knew I was done. I have complete clarity now. For me, it's about coming to terms with everything that's happened. You will get through this. These men aren't worth our time and energy.