Fiance forgot how old I was?

[sarahkelly932]

Not sure if I am over reacting - we are in a long distance relationship as I am working away with work for 6 months. We were talking about children and I said I want them before 35 (I'm 31) he said how can you have a child and marriage in one year. I still didn't know what he meant - until we was on the phone and he said you turn 35 this year? wtf.... when I said no he made a couple of guesses and said 34, 33 and then said it doesn't even matter the same age as my sister... who even cares about age...
I mean I am SO offended and angry - he smokes weed so I am not sure if it is a memory issue or he just doesn't give af..

Well for a start, don’t have kids with a dope-head

I've been with DP for 17 years and we forget how old each other are all the time. Hell, she calls me by the wrong name sometimes.

Unless this is a small part of a much bigger picture, you're massively over reacting!

ah - there it is
weed smoking - yes it could be that / yes he could be forgetful (that would be a red flag for me tho )
not sure it’s a massive cause for offence
it does suggest you don’t know each other very well tho. If you’re in a LDR how often have you actually seen each other

I forget how old am, never mind how old my husband is. It’s not a biggie. The smoking weed however would be a deal breaker.

Firstly, I forgot my own age for a whole year. My sister corrected me eventually.

How long are you together? It maybe isn’t something he’s really dwelled on so hasn’t internalised.

Finally, I couldn’t be arsed dating a regular weed smoker. So from that perspective him knowing your age is the least of your worries!

I told someone my age the other day and realized I was a year out. It happens, don't think its a big deal.

Weed smoking - no
Forgetting age - fine. I often forget my son's birth date.

Please don't have children with a man who smoke weed.

Yep. Me too and my kids and grandkids. I'm always asking how old family members are when they have a birthday coming up and for a long time I thought I was a year older than I am

That wouldn't bother me, but the weed smoking would

Never have children with a drug taker. Children don't need those kind of wasters in their life even if you do.

You have bigger issues than him not knowing or caring about your age.

I agree with this!

The weed is non negotiable- get rid

However, the forgetful stuff is common, my dh forgets my age, is often a year out and I forget our anniversary - it's numbers

I often forget how old my husband is.

I also often forget how old my brother is.

I sometimes forget how old I am.

I wouldn’t read too much into it!

Well I wouldn't date a weed smoker.

But if I ever need to remember my own age, I have to think twice.

As with others - forgetting an age is fine. I often forget mine and my partner got mine wrong recently. A mid decade year is easily confused.

I've also really struggled to remember one of my children's date of birth. She's nearly 18 and, only now, do I remember it without thinking about it!

Regular weed smoker? No.

I have had to calculate my age to work it out since the 1990s.

So there's that.

Also, never marry someone or have kids with someone who smokes weed FFS. Marry someone who is a grown up.

Life lesson (from experience): don't be in a relationship with someone who smokes weed. Definitely don't have kids with anyone who smokes weed. The rest.is irrelevant.

Just challenged myself and I don't know how old DH is off the top of my head...I could work it out from his DOB but I don't immediately know. I'm going for somewhere between 43 and 45! He would also look panicked if put on the spot I reckon...he'd know I'm over 50 but he'd have to have a stab at my exact age.

So personally I don't think it's a big deal!

another one here who is unsure how old I am. I have to do maths and work out from the year I was born. It’s adult DD’s birthday this month and I’m not sure how old she is.

The question is: why is it such a big deal to you?
What has he done in the past to make you this angry over a little thing?
Is he consistently forgetting things that you've told him?
Does he show very little interest in who you are and the things that matter to you?
Does he tend to focus more on himself than on you?
Does he remember your birthday and other special dates?