Baby 5 months old and still not having sex, is this normal?

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Have had sex with DP two or maybe three times since the birth, the last time was mid-december, did not enjoy it, had to ask him to stop.

before I get too self analytical can anyone just tell me if this is normal or not?

yes

LOL! nice and succinct. Thanks. I don't want him anywhere near me to be honest, but hoping that's down to breastfeeding.

yes normal

very normal

I think you should have read your headline before posting.
Could be misconstrued.

oh god yes

plus if you are bfing, homones can make things a little, err. dier down there, whih doesn't help...

(sorry, my R not woking well atm)

Definitely - it was 18 months for me - and even then I wished I was somewhere else. Add that to the 9 months of being preg where I did not let him near me - my dp went without it for a very long time. [guiltyface] House full of porn now.

oops I meant 8 months not 18 - even so - poor bloke!

Oh yes normal. 6 months and counting here. Tbh right now I feel I wouldn't mind too much if I never had sex again

A friend didn't want any for over 2 years. Then they did it once and - guess what? - dc2.

DD is 11 months and I can probably count on 2 hands the amount of times we've had sex.. Hardly at all whilst I was still bf'ing.

wish I hadn't namechanged now. Though I didn't think I was the only one I thought 5 months was a bit long actually.

berolina I feel the same, just noticed on your profile you have 2 children, did you feel like this the first time too?

we sleep apart too so we are living like friends who have the odd kiss, I am happy (as much as I can be) but nothing quite prepares you for the enormity of the change having a baby is, you think you get your head around it when you're pregnant but hahaha, you don't!

My DD is 4 months old and I was also getting worried about our lack of sex. We had a good start when DD was 3 weeks old as I felt fine as birth was straight forward with no tears or anything. But since then we have only done it 5 or so times and not at all for the past 6 weeks. I do want to in principle but can't be arsed making any effort. What worries me is DH isn't trying either we are very affectionate and in love and enjoying being parents but no sex. I know BFing hormonesdon't help but I want to TTC in 3 or 4 months and worry that we won't even be having sex.

Think I felt like it sooner after the first time. Probably by 8 months or so things were normal-ish.

callum is 6 months old and we have only done 'it' 4 times since his birth. will type more when i have finished bf

Very Normal, dd2 was born last september and i think we have done 'it' twice. Mainly because i can not take the pill and i am waiting for dh to see the gp about a 'snip'.

Sooo normal. I wasn't interested till around a year (not a great birth experience...)

Dd is 17 months now and I'm still relieved we have our sex life back!

YEs thsi is very normal. When my DS was born it took me a very long time to recover and my bedroom duties was the last thing i had on my mind. Now 2 years later we still only have it 3 or 4 times a month, not to great really when thinking about trying for baby number 2!
I think each relationship is different. Have you spoken to DH/DP about how you feel?

this thread is making me feel slightly less guilty!

I got pregnant on first time we had unprotected sex, had sex once more after that (not knowing i was pg) and not had it since....baby 7 weeks old.

Am breastfeeding & had 2nd degree tear and really can't imagine ever having, or wanting to have sex again . I feel i want to keep my body firmly to myself.

Hopefully one day, and before poor poor DP explodes or goes elsewhere!!

As others have said, very normal. In fact I just read this to DH who is on holidays this week and he agreed. He said was too tired to really notice!