I feel sick! Ex is moving back to the UK

[LamiaK]

I have posted earlier about getting my confidence back and wanting to date again.

Just as I posted, I received the dreaded news that my ex is actively looking for work in the UK. He's highly qualified and experienced in his field so I presume he'll be here by summer.

I'm shaking and feel really nauseous. He will without a doubt make visiting DD and/or paying CM as difficult as can be. I was so relieved he moved abroad and thought he was gone for good. He stopped maintenance - I didn't argue this and wasn't involved in DD's life which I was grateful for.

In few short months, I will go back to being miserable, depressed, anxious and hating myself and life. And, there is nothing I can do about it. 😓

Easier said than done but try not to be so worried. An ex of mine moved to Long Island and then LA or environs for a job and I get your point I was so happy he was on the other side of the world. & Then he moved back.

He may not live near you where he gets a job and you have some time to get your ducks lined up if necessary. Please try not catastrophise this. If you managed without Cm then that's one thing . Visiting and CM another but as I say you have some time to take advice on this

I wish you well @LamiaK

Don't panic.
How old is dd?
We're courts involved before he left?

She's 5 year old, so still a long way to go until she can manage communication with her dad.
No court involvement. We're going through a divorce. I have an appointment with a mediator later today to discuss finances.

Thank you for this advice. Like you, I was honestly so happy and at peace.
He's looking for a job in the city where DD and I live. He's made this very clear. He has family close by so it makes sense for him to work in the region.