Live in or live out BF

[bustybetty]

I'm stuck in a quandry...so bf was living with me. We had some issues and he moved into a small single room with a friend. He wants back into mine (my house with a tiny mortgage). This would help me out financially as I am not a massive earner but have plans in place to kill the mortgage off in a few years.

However, he seems to want claim over the house for simply paying his half of the bills. Where at his friends he pays about double this amount and expects nothing. He even wants to potentially live here if I die first, until he dies.

I wasn't happy with this arrangement (I have 3 children by a different relationship who are all adults) as I see it as their house. I especially don't want other women through the door. Am I being unreasonable?

Just asking for perspective so please be kind!

Definitely don't let him back in.

Really you should break up with him.

He's completely taking advantage of you.

So he pays double at his mates but expects more for less at yours? No...talk about entitled. It benefits him more than you.
Hes a cocklodger...youll have problems with him. Kids first.

Of course he shouldn't get his feet back under the table at yours.

Your death should not be his retirement plan; get rid.

He’s after your house? Fuck no, get rid.

It couldn't be more obvious! Hes after a soft option and to inherit your house. Never let him back into your home and dump him asap.

The one good thing about this man is that he is honest! There are too many bad things to mention in full but he is basically a selfish greedy using bastard.

Why does he think he should be entitled to your house?!
Don't live together and draw up a will leaving the house to your DC.

You had issues, he seems to think the house is his. Do not let him back or date him under any circumstances whatsoever.

Fuck me he's actually told u about his plan for the house if you die??? Fuck that. Don't let him. Back in you'd be crazy to do so

Don't die first! Or just never let him move in with you.

This is one of the most insane things I’ve read on here, for its sheer brazenness and for your naïveté. It’s a no from me! Split up, he’s a using loser. Raise your standards and think of your kids.

Obviously don’t let him move back in. If you need help with a little extra money get a lodger who won’t make any such claim on your house.

And don’t, FGS, ever marry this man.

Why is he still a boyfriend?? With that attitude the thought of ever seeing him again is one time too many.

And you think the issues won't come about if he moves back in hmmm if there bad enough to move out they will only get worse or new ones appear

He thinks you're a mug, so it's easy, a hard no.
From your title I thought oh, don't move in too early, enjoy the romance a bit longer before all the mundane day to day life. He has no romance about him though, just thoughts of himself and how to benefit to your detriment. I'd bin him off, pronto.

Do not let this man anywhere near your house. I hope you have a will in place. He's a cocklodger and I'd be ending this relationship and not look back!