Compromise

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I have always said when we fight. Let's meet halfway.

My husband never does. He can't see it.

He's not a bad man. But can never meet in the middle.

I always have to beat him. Or give in.
So it's always a fight.
His parents never compromised either.

His mum is a nightmare.

Do you guys compromise well?

Fight ??

No. Almost all cases my husband was in the wrong.

in fact I never gave in. I lived by happy wife happy life.

I asked myself I treated him well and fulfill a wife duties. So when he being rude, unkind or with attitude. I won’t tolerate.

i just don’t talk to him for as long as he can stand. Usually ended up we miss each other. He would buy flowers to make up for the situation.

Argue. I mean a long argument. Often nasty.

I think maybe never giving in works. I used to do that.
What does everyone else think?

depends if there is a halfway and there sometimes isn't a way out that would be in anyway satisfying to anyone. Sometimes compromise means that everyone will be equally unhappy with the resolution

so at best it's meeting both needs in different timelines or one person needs to give up

luckily we mosty agree on things and if we don't...to be fair, I often end up being right so I just wait for consequences and for him to admit it

I guess it depends on the type of things you're compromising on.

I had a relationship where I was the one who did most of the unseen bending. It ended. The reality was we weren't compatible. I wanted him to be someone he wasn't and vice versa.

It really does depend on what the argument is about. I can't be bothered arguing about petty stuff (e.g bought the wrong brand of beans etc) - life's too short, don't sweat the small stuff. But if it's bigger stuff, you need to find a way through this

Silent treatment is abuse.
What are 'wife's duties?'

It's small things and big things.
We disagree about a lot.

@MumDaisy1980
So you're saying that you never once admitted you were wrong, and if you didn't like your husband's "attitude" you'd give him the silent treatment until he capitulated and bought you flowers? So you're happy to admit you abused the poor sod, then?

Happy wife, happy life, indeed. I'd love to hear your husband's side of the story.

In some cases there really isn't a compromise. For example, I want to live in the UK, my DH wants to live somewhere sunnier. So one of us has to "win".
However, most arguments are a difference of opinion. Even if we can't meet in the middle I think it's important to discuss the issue and try to understand the other perspective. I don't always agree with DH but he's a reasonable man so I can usually see where he's coming from.
If you understand and respect each other then disagreements don't usually become nasty arguments.

Been going out with DP for 15 months and not really had a disagreement. Once or twice I've asked him to do something differently (e.g. pick up his towel in the bathroom). He has immediately apologised lightly and has never repeated the offence. He once told me about something I did that he preferred me not to do and I did the same. Neither of us takes it personally - we are trying to work together to build a partnership so it's important that we are both able to compromise.

If your H can't compromise then I think you have a problem. Arguments shouldn't be nasty. If you both love, respect and care for one another (and it can't be just one of you that is doing the loving and caring) then you should be able to discuss, compromise, disagree, etc.. without being nasty, mean, unkind.