Emotional abuse should I hide nanny cams to get evidence?

[mama678910]

Hi

I'm scared that my husband will take away my 1 year old son if I leave and don't have enough evidence.

He is emotionally abusive not physically but it's mentally getting me to a point where I can't take anymore.

I am thinking of buying nanny cams to hide so I can record his behaviour in order to get evidence? Is that enough to get full custody? I don't even want to share custody at all.

Is he emotionally abusive to the child?

By abusing a baby's mother, he is also abusing the baby.

That’s unfortunately not necessarily how the courts see it.

I’d be surprised if recording someone without their permission would be looked at favourably by the court.

You would be better off contacting womeks aid and leaving now.
This is unlikely to be admissible.

He is likely to get access. Is he likely to aim for 50/50?

As above. Abuse of the mother does not necessarily restrict access

It doesn't work like that unfortunately.

I am sorry you are going through this.

Full custody isn't a thing in the UK. Shared Care or live with order are the usuals.

Either way abuse toward the mother doesn't always have any sway in the amount of contact father will have. Even in severe Domestic abuse cases father will often get unsupervised contact eventually.

I don't think secret recording will go down well with a judge if it comes to it.

This is the point I was driving at. His relationship with his wife and his relationship with his child are two different things. You won't necessarily get to decide if you want to share custody or not.

If they are secretly done then they are worthless OP because they can never be used as evidence.

I watched a documentary the other day about a guy who put a nanny cam in the living room because his wife was abusing him. (My wife, My abuser: The Secret Footage on channel 5).

The police used the footage to investigate, arrest and charge the perp.

I didn't hear anything that suggested it was a bad idea to do so.

I don't know if it's different if you aren't reporting a crime based on it though.