My Dh and I have been together for 10 years, married for 7. We have a 6 year old, 3 year old and 1 year old.
When we had our first child my DHs life did not change that much. We used to socialise a lot and he continued to do this. Going to the pub on his way home from work, coming home when our DS was in bed. When we had our DD he gradually became more involved in family life but for the most part begrudgingly.
My DH is self-employed and a bit of a drinker and now that we have our DS2/DC3 things have reached breaking point. He just does not enter into family life with any enthusiasm, for example, if we go to the park together when he has had enough we have to go home even if the kids are still having fun so for the most part I take the kids on my own.
When he comes home from work he doesn't help with the kids bath/bedtime routine. He gets himself a srink and sits on his computer/watches the telly oblivious to anything that needs doing.
I am beyond sick of him. We do not have any ohysical contact and I am not remotely interested in having any with him, I have no respect for him anymore as I have tried to talking to him/telling him what I need him to do and nothing ever changes.
I cannot stay unhappily married anymore. How can I leave him? Seriously, what do I have to do? I am a SAHM and have no income. In an ideal world I would like to be housed and get benefits to tide me over until DS2 is at school and I would then look to get a job. I know it is not ideal and I would not want to be on benfits forever but I in the short term it is what I would need to do.
Has anyone been through this? What did you do? How long did it take to sort out?