Hi All
Can I ask your opnions please? I think maybe I am a little suspicious but not sure if its justified or not!
I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks. He's lovely, I mean really lovely when we are together I'm content. It feels like he really likes me, we get on, he smiles at me with his eyes (if you know what I mean), he gives the most amazing hugs and we laugh together constantly. My gut instinct when we are together is that he is genuine. I have been very clear and told him that if he wants casual sex then I'm not for him, I don't want a player I want a partner.
My uneasiness kicks in when we are apart. He rarely texts or phones, if I text he will usually answer almost immediately although sometimes it takes 24 hours or more (niggle 1). He also seems to be away for a couple of nights each week, as in off seeing the boys. I've been dumped on so often a little voice is warning me that he could be off seeing other women. He doesn't seem to want to plan ahead either, he aways says see you soon, its never a definite date. I find myself chasing him, asking if he wants to meet up on a specific day. It feels too soon to have the conversation around not seeing anyone else. I don't want to scare him off because I really like him but I don't want to be taken for a ride again. Perhaps I should just leave him to it and see if he does actually chase me for a date?
Any words of advice? apart from chill! I don't know whats wrong with me except I really like this man, I've let him in to an extent and I would hate to be proved wrong (yet again).
I should add that he is the first man I really feel comfortable with since my divorce 2 years ago!