A few months ago DH & I made a deal with our SIL & BIL (his brother) to mind each others kids while the other had a night out. No babysitting costs & kids get to have a sleep-over with their cousins. Great idea. We live in different counties, so we would only see each other every month or so.
DH & I held the first sleepover (in Oct last year). Next time we saw them it was near Christmas. My SIL said "its your turn for a night out, so we will mind your kids". I wasn't pushed on going out so near Christmas so I told them they could go instead (I knew they were dying for another night out). I told them we would go out in January when it was quieter.
We saw them again in January. No offer of a sleepover came our way. SIL seemed to be in a bad mood with her DH, so I let it pass.
Saw them again last weekend - still no offer of a sleepover. Needless to say, I'm getting a bit pissed off at this stage.
While at MIL's house, I happened to walk in on MIL talking to my DH. She was asking him if WE took the kids for a sleepover ? .
DH just said we didn't. I said in a very loud voice that it was actually OUR turn for a night out and no offer of a sleepover had come our way as it happens!
MIL just mumbled that SIL probably has other things on her mind and left it at that.
When we called over to see them on Sunday we found out that they had gone out on Saturday night (they had booked a sitter). We were with them until 9pm that night and they didn't mention that they were going out or would we like to go with them.
Myself & SIL have never been bossom buddies, but there has never been a fallen out or anything. She can get very moody at times, but I just pretend not to notice when she is like this (same as everyone else). She is generous in other ways ..... she cooked Sunday lunch for us all (even though I told her we had dinner waiting at home ...). I can't figure her out at times.
By a night out I mean a nice romantic meal as we don't go to pubs - myself & DH aren't big drinkers (they are the opposite - they like the pub).
DH says to let it go and that I'm getting myself worked up over nothing, but I think they are being very unfair. People don't mind you doing them a favour, but when its your turn they don't want to know. Am I being petty and should I just let it go ? What would you do ?