I want to leave

[Nicetobenice67]

Has anyone been in an abusive relationship and been scared to leave ...has anyone actually gone through it and got there life back together I'm 57

It took me about 2-3 years to leave but once I decided it fell into place quite easily. There were no children involved which helped.
I found planning calmed my mind and kept me on track.
And it’s essential to keep safe, I didn’t let him know a thing and the hugest stroke of luck was he took himself off on a drinking binge so I left.
And yes, it all worked out well.

I’d say plan, plan and plan. Look at each step to make sure you stay safe.
Start by separate finances where possible, make copies of everything, insurances, pensions etc… Put money away where you can. Good luck.

This guy isn't your regular guy it's not easy to get away he is a bully

Hi op yes I was for 17 years I left with 5 children ranging from 14 to 9 months I can't go into details about my situation as it would be a 200 page book but honestly if I can do it I'm sure you can good luck op sending you all the luck I can

Thank you we don't live together anymore that's one good thing but he won't let me go he starts to get intouch with my friends I've lost friends because of him it gets scary

I’m sure there must be steps you can take , you could phone Women’s Aid for advice. They’ll have experience of pretty much every scenario going.

Please contact Woman’s Aid, they can give you the best advice and help in RL.
do not hesitate to call the police in the meantime if feel under threat, this could be the first step to getting something in place so he cannot come near you. I hope other posters can add their insights.
I left me ex who was mentally abusive, took me years due to the control his words had on me.