Feeling incredibly lonely…

[Peachesandcream20]

I feel incredibly lonely. I’ve spent most of the day at home. This is unusual for me. Most days I take the dog for several walks and go and sit in cafes.

but it’s the same old, same old and I can’t keep doing it any more.

I don’t have any meaningful interaction day to day and no fulfilling relationships. I have some nice friends and I see them but they also are busy with their own lives.

I’m just feeling incredibly sad and alone.

im so sorry. Do you have a partner? Or any interest in finding a partner?

I would be the same without my partner. My friends are always so busy.

I've been feeling the same today, usually it doesn't bother me too much as I keep myself busy but I was in the gym earlier (of all places to have the pang of loneliness) and it just hit me that I'm really lonely at the moment.

Not sure what to advise but you aren't alone in feeling that way.

I don’t have a partner. I’m a very sociable person but most of my friends arent interested. I go to cafes a lot but really I don’t meet many people there when I sit there and work. My weekends can often feel the same as my weekdays.

today I’ve just lost all motivation to do anything. I feel exhausted from the emotional loneliness.

I would love to have a partner but I just don’t meet people.

im sorry you’re both feeling this way too.

Have you tried dating sites?
Do you work as I'm not clear, if not get a job or volunteer work to meet people

Good luck

Yes I'm a very sociable person but it seems my friends are all really busy. I've literally got a lunch date with a friend in the diary for mid April as that was the earliest they could do. Others are so hard to pin down.

I don't have a partner or children which is probably why I have more free time.

I also volunteer one evening a week. Weekends are hard though.

I think it's the time of year too. It has been so long without proper sun, and summer feels so near yet so far.

Could you organize a party? Something to look forward to? Everyone has to bring two people you don't already know.

Could you arrange a coffee morning, post about it on Facebook and ask people who have a similar interest to you to meet at a certain cafe at a certain time?

I have found doing random acts of kindness can really help. Giving away things for free on Facebook market place etc.

Also when I am at my lowest, I go on threads which are uncommented on and I respond being as kind and helpful as possible. Makes me feel good.

Going against the grain here, having felt similar when I was single in my mid thirties, and advise you don’t find the solution in dating.

Do you have any hobbies or anything you’d like to do? I started horse riding lessons every Saturday morning which filled my social & physical batteries up. I joined cocktail club and made myself a fancy drink every Saturday night to enjoy in front of Strictly. Sunday was my house work and self care day with fake tanning, hair wash, yoga etc. Giving my weekend structure differentiated it from the week.

I read somewhere that whatever you want in a partner, you should become that for yourself first. Treat yourself well, be an interesting person who doesn’t need rescuing.

I’m married now & very pleased I met someone when I had a full life and vice versa.

Oh love well done for reaching out and speaking your heart.

You sound like a treasure. Your people are out there - whether romantic or platonic. But I guess there's no way to meet them other than taking steps to do that. Have you tried something like meetup?

Go to the library.

They always have social events on and advertised, like seriously you will be spoiled for choice.

What interests do you have? You could try matching your interests with volunteering. Volunteering is so much more than just giving your time for free as some people think. Many volunteer organisations offer training and ongoing support. You also get lots of social interactions. If you absolutely don't know where to start- try your local hospital. They have so many positions- from pushing the library trolley through wards, to befriending people on long term stay, to playing with children on the children's ward. I have been a volunteer for 3 different organisations. I got massively more compared to what I put in. I hope it helps

Sorry you’re feeling blue. What would you like to plan to have something to look forward to?

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this.

Do you have family?

What job do you do? Is there potential to work in an office, meet people that way?

Do you do any voluntary work or belong to any clubs? What hobbies do you have?

Have you looked at joining Meet Up?

Could you tell a friend that you feel like this, ask them to introduce you to some of their friends eg at a party?

It's difficult. Good luck.

Op not easy. Would a hobby help. I walk. 4 us. Met her for cuppa last week. Loneliness is hard. I find same hard pin friends to a date busy busy.