19 month old ill but going to sister tomorrow

[Melly1991]

Just taken my 19 month old to the GP today (after fighting to get an appointment for 2 days).
She has been given a week’s worth of antibiotics due to a chest infection.

Me and DP have an all-day meeting with our church tomorrow who is marrying us next year/ prep day we have been asked to attend. It’s 10-4pm.

I asked a few weeks ago if my sister and DH would have DD. She agreed as she wanted to take her to soft play with her own DD.

She gets very breathless when she’s been running around/ excited and me and DP are worried this is going to make it worse. Her cough is very bad and she has had a mild fever all day. Runny nose etc.

Am I being over protective for her to just want to relax for the day and have her fluids etc? Doctor did say she has to relax I know with my sister, my BIL and their 6 year old daughter my DD won’t be resting and she will be getting picked up all the time, played with and no time to rest. I am a bit worried they will exhaust her when she needs to rest. I don’t know if it’s me and DP being overprotective with her?

Please be nice

presumably you love and trust your sister?

So… pick up the phone, explain the situation and if your sister is anything like my sister… She’d say “ok soft play plan off and instead quiet day at home with lots of cuddles”

@ForNaiceHiker thanks for your response, yes I am inclined to do that however their daughter is 'really looking forward' to soft play with my DD so I will be nasty for cancelling.

I do love my sister but she doesn't understand always where I am coming from and they have the opinion me and DP are over protective.

I wouldn’t be inclined to leave my baby all day with someone who thinks i’m “over protective” and who would prioritise fact their 6 year old WANTS to go to soft play over fact my baby is poorly and on antibiotics

What about the infection risk for them, their daughter and other kids at soft play as well as tiredness risk for your DD? Is there anyone else who could have her tomorrow?

actually that’s a bloody good point

WTAF

just read about your fiance putting pressure on you to have sex with another man in front of him

Don’t go to this church thing tomorrow

don’t marry the sinister weirdo

You still want to marry him?

rearrange your church meeting and stay home with your daughter, she has a fever and a chest infection so I wouldn’t risk her passing that on to anyone.

What are you doing with your 3.5 yr old daughter? Is she going to your sister’s too? Is the 19m old your fiancé’s from a previous marriage?

would be 4 now as that thread was from december last year (and i suspect she increased the age because it was about not being invited on a family holiday to disneyland)

It sounds like you have bigger problems than a child with a chest infection.

@Justyouwaitandseeagain yes quite a few people who could have her like both grandmas.

@Muddywalks34 we are going to still send her but I think sister is going to stay at home with her

Reschedule the church day, I am sure they will understand. A chest infection is a pretty horrible condition to have, your baby needs to be looked after not in an unusual environment.

@bunds we are planning to still go but have sister stay home with her

@Melly1991 why not prioritise the health of your child and stay home and care for them? Would you want to be shunted around away from your home if that were you?