I’m not sure how long to wait for sex

[Lilllypad11]

I’m new to the dating game, and honestly, I feel scared about the prospect of sex because of the emotional attachments that come with it. I sort of feel I have to hold myself back and stop myself from engaging in sex because I know how I’ll be when I get attached.

I usually think 3 months is the right time but I’m literallly fighting against my own urges, what are your thoughts?

How old are you? How often are you seeing each other? How does he react when you kiss etc but don't have sex?

I think “the right time” depends on the person and the situation, I don’t think there is necessarily a set amount of time that is “right”.

Personally I think it you want to, and especially if you feel you are “fighting your urge” then you probably are ready and shouldn’t wait for a fixed amount of time. It should be a case of reading the situation you’re in and acting appropriately.

3 months is quite a long time to wait if you are seeing each other every week/a couple times a week, but it isn’t so long to wait if you only see each other for example once a month, so it depends.

i waited about 4 hours with my current bf, we met at a club lol. we have been together just over a year now!

its whenever YOU are ready :)

There’s no right or wrong answer. Some people have sex on first date, others prefer to wait.

I would say however if you’re fighting your urges, the time is right already.

There isn't a right time. You have sex when you want to.

If you're already fighting your urges, go for it.

I'd also say that if you're with somebody for three months, it's likely you'll have already formed an emotional attachment regardless of the sex. Or lack of.

I waited until 3rd date. I was hugely attracted to him sexually. Making love is the most beautiful thing in the world. I can’t see why it should scare us as long as we take the necessary precautions.