I feel so stressed in my relationship

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My fiance has always been easy going but I have to take care of everything and it's exhausting.We have a 1 year old and I have to basically give him instructions on what needs done all the time. The child's needs, general household chores, life admin, everything. It's making me really resent him and Im rethinking our relationship. We are due to get married in 2 years and he is a good man, I do love him but sometimes I just think he's like another child I have to look after. We both work full time and he also coachs a sports team so we are both very busy. How can I get him to step up and do things without being asked and just give me a break? Im so fed up. Please help

Have you had a conversation together about it? Does he know the extent of your unhappiness? Maybe you could put it to him that this is a mother/son relationship, because he’s letting you do all the jobs that his mummy would do around the house. Hopefully that will make him feel uncomfortable about his lack of input and he will step up.

What have you tried so far?
Some men are just oblivious, but have good intentions deep down and will step up when they are being made aware of the problem. They just need to be shaken out of the behavioral patterns they're stuck in. Lots and lots of communication, maybe couples counseling could help. But be aware that you will always have to be the one to move things around in the relationship, make him aware of how he's behaving, point out what you need for him to change etc.

Others are hopeless, will put in the smallest effort for a few days/weeks after being confronted and go back to doing nothing at all. If that's the case, the sooner you leave, the better.