I’m sorry if this is a long post and please be gentle it’s my first time posting anything like this.
I split up with my little girls dad around 6 years ago when she was 2. I have always been the main parent and he most often saw her on a day over the weekend and occasionally in the week if he asked. I have always been flexible with him whenever he has asked to see her. Her dad has always had a very short temper and anger problems he was violent to me in the relationship but in fact I’ve never told anybody about it. Things started to get worse last year, he has done something things I’m sure many people would find shocking. It began when he was involved in a road rage incident and strangled someone in front of my daughter. He told her after the incident if she told me I wouldn’t ever let her go in the car with him again. She didn’t tell me for weeks and then broke down told and told me everything. Since then she is petrified in the car he beeped at someone some weeks later and my daughter had a melt down which made him angry and he said he wasn’t going to see her again. He then asked to take her away on holiday for a few days. I agreed as she was excited to go but we have never been apart for that long and he was letting her stay up till 3am.. so on the 2nd night there she was on the phone to me really upset saying she missed me and wanted to come home. This made him angry and he was threatening to drive her home at midnight 3 hours away which petrified me. Towards the end of last year he began having an affair, he was taking my daughter to meet the girl he was having an affair with and telling her not to tell me or his girlfriend at the time. This has really destroyed my daughter and eventually she told me and her. He is now with the new gf and it seems to have made things worse a few weeks ago he made the decision he wasn’t going to see our daughter anymore so each weekend I was making excuses for him as I don’t want her to be anymore emotionally damaged. He has also got an ongoing assault charge and has had a recent osman order against him. To be honest I was quiet relived as I am so scared of the emotional damage he is doing to her she has started to lie to me and has been having dreams about him throwing me into a cellar and taping my mouth shut. He called one day this week out of the blue and asked to speak to my daughter he asked to take her for tea in the next 10 mins. I said ohh that won’t be possible tonight you’ve got brownies in an hour. He said to her tell mommy to mind her own business. I took the phone from her and was then faced with a barrage of abuse calling me a scumbag and c* my daughter was so upset and ran in the other room crying, I decided to make the decision to block his number as I knew abuse would follow. But I don’t know what to do now my head is in a mess, I’m scared I will be in trouble for blocking his number. I’m scared if this ends up in court he will end up having more contact and damaging her more. I’m looking for advice of what I can do next. I’m sorry this is so long