A good love life?

[Harrybee]

Am i being a bad wife by not wanting to make love as much as my husband. Im a full time working mum who is shattered by 10pm most nights. Sometimes DH gets the right strop if i say 'not tonigth honey'. Is anyone else in the same boat??

Me

Know its not much help - but in our household it is the other way around and dp refuses!

Jazzicatz, where do you find the energy?

Definitely in the same situation. I work evenings, DH works during the day. After snoozing for most of the evening DH is raring to go when I get home from work. I'm knackered and am ready for bed .

I'm in same situation as Jazzicatz - what's the solution?

ermmm can't you have a morning time shag?

Not unless I want to set the alarm! I've got to be up at 6 anyway for work

we could only DH gets up at 5am and he knows better than to wake me up before 6.30! Maybe im just crazy, or is is normal to only do it 3 or 4 times a month?

leave to the weekends then

Weekends are ok if our son doesnt wake up first! Its not easy to ger turned on when you can hear MUMMY from the next room LOL...

I'm not sure I could cope with only 3-4 times per month, we'd argue more.

I get narked if I dont have it 2/3 times a week

we were talking about this the other night

I prefer every other day, Dh would prefer 2 out of 3, not a bad match I suppose.

Sometimes even if you think you're not up for it, you can be once you get going, so it might be worth just getting stuck in once in a while. Is he pulling his weight in other areas around the house? I feel particularly horny when my DH has completed a pile of ironing or put both DCs to bed!

We do it probably two or three times a week, , I must say though it's something you have to make time for and you don't sound too willing to do that.

Dp will only manage once a month

No DH doesnt do anything around the house unless i ask him to. He works shifts and his job is much more stressful than mine so i dont like to ask often!
Maybe i need to make more of an effort.

so VS that is the question... how often is average, DH and I are just about happy with where we are with things but I do feel like everyone else is at it like rabbits

JingleyJen, if both you and DH/P are satisfied then thats perfect
Most relationships one wants it more than the other, DP would happily do it every day three times a day, I could cope on once a week so we compromise.

we have come to a satisfactory point... DP wouldn't do it every day but does like to do it more than me.. I think we are in a good space..

DH and I are quite well matched on this score, although when DS was first born, DH couldn't wait for the 6 week check, and after much badgering, I gave in after 2 weeks!!

Since then though, I'm back to normal, and about 2-3 times a week is usual for us - if I know he's after it and I'm not in the mood, I have been known to overfeed him at dinner so he feels sluggish and bloated which gets him out the mood fairly quickly .

pmsl@Trixies over feeding!!

hmm well as a single parent i havent had it for well over a year, and no doubt several more years to come - so think yourselves lucky!