My MIL!!! Thats should say it all really.
I will try to be brief. met DP in july 05, met her shortly after, me and dp spent every other weekend with her (he was still at home) long distance relationship sort of thing. Very quickly DP moved up north to be with me and she just changed into the worst women ever!
I was telling my ds off for smacking me in the face and she dragged him away from me, it just went down hill from there. Summer 06 we had a big nlow up and she told me I should listen to her and do what she says because she brought up DP. That I am a cruel mother and I will drive my kids away she called me selfish and childish. This all kicked off because the night before DS was kicking off and playing up at bedtime using delay tactics he asked for a drink i told him no a few times. She sneaked him one up told him not to tell me, wasnt the first time she'd done this.
I was annoyed at the fact she was encouraging my son (who id brought up on my own for 4 years!) to lie to me.
Anyway she moved abroad after that, we bought her house, after a long drawn out mess of her and DP trying to persuade me to just keep paying off her mortgage as it would be done in a few years time then the house would be fully ours. Part of the big blow up she said she wasnt signing her house over to us if my name was on anything. I had my son to think of and was 10 weeks pregnant at the time so i stood my ground, because I knew she would come back eventually and try to reclaim/takeover the house.
So fast forward a year, mortgage is in our names, we pay it each month, all th ebills are in our names, we have half way through redorating the house and she decides shes not happy abroad and wants to come back. Fair enough I said, shes never actually said sorry for the things she said to me so I am convinced she meant them and actually doesnt like me. She then moved to eastbourne, prior to this she was with us for 10 days i bit my tongue cos i knew it wouldnt be forever.
Now shes moved back to this area, stayed with us for 3 weeks and is now in the process of moving into her own place. She doesnt drive and expects me to drive her places. She tells me what to do all the time with my boys. We do CC with our DS hes 13 months, we dont do it properly but the way we do it works, she stood outside his door a few nights ago and said "my poor darling boy, leaving you to cry like that)
The longest we have left him is 5 mins!! Its stupid little comments that all add up and make me feel like a useless mother. The gas running out is my fault, if i turn the heating on, she waits till im out the room and turns it off again. I threw two of DS's cups into the bin because they was broken, she watched me do it then the next day they where on the draining board and she told DP she thought the baby put them in there, even though the baby doesnt step foot in the kitchen ever!!
The worst thing ever was 2 nights ago I was in aogny, sat on the couch with my hot water bottle (in process of mc) took the boys to bed and came down to get my water bottle and re fill it and it had gone. Me and DP looked for a good 10 mins before i dug out another. She sat in her chair and said "i dunno i havnt seen it"
The next morning I found it stuffed/hidden down the side of the chair where she was sitting i was litrally crying in pain and she sat there. Not 100% she hid it on purpose but she was the only one left in the room when we took the boys to bed.
She kicked off this morning because my ds (5) made a comment about her being silly for folding his coat sleeves up, she lost it and said she'd had enough and it was all too much. DP amde a joke out of it but im fed up of her little outbirsts. I know we need to lay rules down over our boys but she just doesnt listen, it goes in one ear and out the other seriously. Like DS (!) was vomiting all day tuesday, when she got in from work i asked her not to give him any food bebause it makes him sick and he was having rehydration fluids (so not starving him) she told me off i had to practically beg her not to feed him. She did the same with DS1 when he was smaller too.
Its turning into a bit of a rant sorry but anyway yesterday she rung DP at work crying because she was worried about me and wanted me to go and sit with her. I told him to politely let her down but i cant put up with it anymore I have enough going on.
DP keeps telling me she loves me and thinks the world of me, yet she constantly gives me horrid looks whenever ipick the baby up or speak to the boys. She always questions what Im doing with them. I know she doestn agree with my parenting but me and DP agree and surely thats all that should matter, shes had her time now and it would do her good to rememebr who gave birth to her darling grandsons!!!
SOrry its long and thanks for reading if you got this far. A friend of mine ended up sending a solicitors letter to her MIL i dont want to have to go that far but Im scared its coming to that! She just wont listen! Thinks her way is best and im ready to ignore her for the rest of my life!