Just curious what would you think of this text?

[Finallyhappyat58]

So out with family all day Saturday. All adults and a fair bit of alcohol consumed. I was sober. We have a family messenger group to send stuff and photos between us . Saturday night on the family chat I noticed a message from my husband at 12 oclock at night to the family chat .
"I'm a little busy right now. Call me later, thanks.
To me it looks like its been sent in error .to the family group.
But when I questioned him in a this is an odd text to send at 12 oclock at night.
He said he didn't remember sending it and it was the way I looked at him as in not trusting him .
He said Im more than ok asking him but the trusting thing is the deal breaker . So hes just gone out
Im sat here fuming .

Do you generally trust him? Any reason to be suspicious?

My watch has pre prepared messages like that. I sometimes send them by accident.

His watch doesn't send messages

Deep down I trust him but my mind is going round and round . When we first met he was in a serious bad place . PTSD due to DV . He was in an on off LDR which I knew nothing about. He comitted to me .
He also follows a few of what I would call inappropriate ladies on Tic Tock . So Im feeling insecure

Hmmmm, I think I would be feeling the same OP. It’s a bit odd. It’s the way he’s reacted as well, almost shutting you down and flouncing off to make you feel bad and like the bad guy. Maybe making sure you don’t ask any more questions? Is he protective over his phone?

It's quite a formal text, why did he not just answer you? His reply is rather ott unless he's got something to hide.

Well it's not exactly flirty or the sort of text you would send to someone you were trying to shag. It's more formal, and as pp has said it looks like a text rewritten. I wouldn't be worrying at all about this.

And I'd be pretty pissed if my DP grilled me about it!

Looks like one of the pre-typed messages I can send without opening my phone if I don't take a call. Can also set phone to silence calls but send a selected message to all.

I agree about the formal message as in it has punctuation and he doesn't always punctuate his messages.

Also I didn't grill him I said it was a pretty strange text to send at 12 oclock at night . I also said if Id done it he would ask me about it .

It's a pre written message that's sent with 1 touch, so probs in error. Wouldn't worry me in the slightest, and I'd be pissed off if my oh tried insinuating

Agree with this

Sounds like he's pocket pressed something that has sent an auto message, as others have said.

I think you're all right and its a pre message. Wish Id come on here first before mentioning it .

Looks like a pre written message to me. He probably accidentally sent it and didn't realise. I'd just get over it unless you don't trust him.

It sounds like one of the prepared texts, very easy to send by accident. The bigger issue is why you don't trust him.

Im feeling very daft right now but I do trust him and then thought to myself what if Im being played and am being stupid so it went round and round my head .

I’m sure the pre set ones don’t include ‘im a bit tipsy right now’ 😂

Sorry I missed read that. Yeah it’s probably an accident

Hmm he hasn’t done much to earn your trust has he?
He inappropriately messages other women online (?) he cheated on you when you first met and lied about a long distance relationship that was ongoing?

Its a massive over reaction for him to “storm out” when you query an odd message.
That’s childish and actually I think he’s trying to gas light you by deliberately making you feel bad for daring to question something.

You have nothing to “feel daft” about. He sounds like a wanker.

But would you have refused to explain something that is, then, so easily explained?

I mean, being angry or upset that your partner is even asking the question is one thing.
But making things worse by making a stand and refusing to answer sounds stupid to me. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

ap@Finallyhappyat58 happy that you’ve found some peace with it. :):)

But he did answer, he said h didn't remember. The OP said there was alcohol flowing so it's not outside the realm of possibility that he was drunk

He didn't refuse to discuss it but it was more the look on my face saying I don't believe you because I think your lying and I don't trust you . So he said he was going out . This is all connected to his CPTSD . Which I understand as he did live an horrendous life before and has had counselling for which helped but not totally sorted .
I come from a traumatic background of DV coercive control and financial abuse for 27 years . So I am insecure in my head but not outwardly if you see what I mean .
When he came back he said he understood why I was insecure .
He had deleted all social media including Tic Toc .
I did not ask or even hint as it didn't occur to me for him to do this .
He is a good guy and does treat me well in all aspects of life so hopefully this can be put behind us .