Where do I start? Want a divorce...

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I've made my mind up that I want to divorce my husband of 22 years. We have 4 kids, one with ADHD/ASD. I've put this off after many years of knowing this was the right path because of our children. However I've realised that I don't want our daughters to think being treated like me is ok. So despite the upheaval it will cause, divorce is necessary. I need out. I've told my husband. He grey rocks anything remotely emotional. Say's 'fine'. But I know he will drag his heels every step of the way.....what can I do if this is the case?

Also-I feel I need to tell someone so I have a 'witness'. I'm fairly close-(Ish) to his sister. Should I tell her? I don't want our kids to know until after their exams.

Get your ducks in a row, passports, birth certificates, bank statements if you have your own account and sort a safe space for them, same with anything with sentimental value. Do your research for a good solicitor and remain civil and dignified. All the best op x

Have you seen a solicitor?

It’s a good idea to do that and get everything you can sorted out before you start the conversation. That way you can tell him that you want to divorce and it’s all ready to go. And you know where you stand.

Where do you start? You go see a lawyer - maybe ask around for a local good one - and tell them to crack on with it.

This. Do you know what all the matrimonial assets are ? All the savings, pensions, life insurance etc for BOTH of you, plus equity in your house is you own it .

Many many women have no idea what money their husband has and they often try to hide it in the divorce .

It’s easier to play detective when he doesn’t know you are investigating him.