How do I leave?

[EscapeForNow]

Reposted as I got so few answers….

I want to separate from my dh.

BUT I’m also disabled and can’t work. I will need help around the house (house stuff mainly)

How can I do that?

Im currently claiming as much as I can. Would be able to get UC on top. But PIP is always hit and miss - what if they dont renew it at the next reassessment?
And I’m aware that I wouldn’t have access to as much support when we are separated (I’m talking therapies, access to private consultant through his work health insurance etc…) which might have an impact on my health too…

Is there anyone around who has been in a similar position?

My dear this is an extremely difficult situation for you. Maybe put what country u are living in as that may help , if your in the US I would have no clue if in the UK I’d advise u to go see you GP first to check what support in the home would be available to you . Next citizens advise or ask your GP to ref you to a social worker also contact welfare for advise
best of luck with this

@Yoe , I’m in England.

ive been in contact to with social services before as they’ve made house alterations. But yes I can contact them again to see what they could do.

GP is useless but I can ask the specialist clinic for support - a document that summarises the physical struggles I have would help I imagine.

i have to say, I’m scared. I have little energy and I’m not sure ill be able to cope with the stress of it :(

Depending on the reasons behind why you want to leave your marriage, you might be able to get help from Women's Aid.

It depends on so many things
Why do you want to leave? If DV why could you not stay and he leave?
Do you own or rent, is it both names on lease or mortgage?
I think if you are in a DV situation and rent with LA they will be able to advise
If you are in DV situation have you contacted the police at any time?

No DV here.

So yes I can stay in the house and the mortgage is nearly paid off.

Will he not want his share of the equity if the house is nearly mortgage free?

I don’t know.
I think that between savings, his pension etc… this is worth about the same as the house (we’re not living in an expensive house in an expensive area of the country).
So I imagine that on paper, he could force the sale.

But I have to say, the consequence of it would be Much harsher on me than on him.