I love my DP so much. He’s amazing, he’s everything and more that I could wish for.
But I come with chaos, baggage and just a load of stress. I know he’s feeling down and is unhappy as he’s told me that he struggles with it all.
I know it’s not all me but I also know I don’t help. We’ve been together 6 years, have our own home and plans to get married.
I have 2 DD’s aged 14 and 12 they are hard work and have massive attitudes. Their dad is also narcissistic who wants to destroy me (even if it means damaging his dc) so we have a lot of issues that arise from that and it causes alot of stress inside our home. They don’t stay with him but keep contact.
he has 2 DS’s aged 13 and 11. They are with us 4 nights a week and are grumpy and no longer want to engage with him. He struggles with getting them off tech and we often get “i will just stay at mummy’s more if you make me xxx” that really hurts him.
he also hates his job but wouldn’t earn as much elsewhere and we have a large mortgage so he says he can’t leave. i don’t know how to help him.
I am also chaotic, I would say ADHD, unorganized and can get shouty at my children (although I am working on this atm and it has improved massively recently)
im running my own business and working part time along with doing most of the school runs (we don’t live on a bus route for any of the children)
I’m exhausted, our sex live is non existent and I don’t know where to go from here.
any suggestions would be massively appreciated