Not sure were to start but here goes I've been with my husband 6 yrs married 3, he likes to drink a lot more than myself so l asked him could we do a drink free week once a month. He agreed but doesn't really stick to it he nos my reasons for why l want this which r l want to spend time wit my husband not the drunk version and like for him having a drink it helps me unwind and l feel closer to him. He,ll ring or message me and tell me he's goin to the pub which is fine but he says it'll be a couple of hrs and he's away to closing time, which in turn makes me angry and frustrated cause l feel lied to and like my feelings don't matter . I do try to discuss this wit him and almost always it turns into a row and of course he goes to the pub. My problem is not him goin to the pub its the frequency of how many times a week he drinks which sometimes is 3 times a week ( not always in the pub at home to ) and that he goes of the whole day every time. I honestly don't mind that once in a blue moon .l have told him that if it continues l will stop doing the things he wants to do as he's not giving the same back and l lost my temper other day and said if he'd went of all day then l wouldn't go to millisle with him so he cancelled it which was for my birthday, l feel at a lose I'm trying to understand were he's coming from but l also want him to realise that this is coming between us and l feel drink comes first.