A pathetic post-first date question

[CherryMaxine]

If you had a very enjoyable first date, when would you expect the subject of seeing each other again to be broached?

For context we are both women. Neither looking for a full on relationship but were both taken aback at the chemistry when we met on Friday. I stayed at hers, left in a rush the next morning to catch a train but lots of kissing on way out the door etc and then mutual flirty texts throughout the day yesterday and chat about how much we both enjoyed it.

Same again today but neither of us has said anything about meeting up again. I reeeeallllllyy want to ask but am afraid of rejection.

No, I'm not 15.

I just need to stop being a coward don't I?

Yes. Good luck

Just suggest something you would like to do with her and ask when she's free. Don't overthink it.

The texting suggests she's into you but on the off chance she's not as enthusiastic as you it would be better to know sooner rather than later.

Good luck.

Ask her if she wants to have dinner on Tuesday .

Just go for it … it’s hard to find the chemistry and when u do not let fear or worry stop you as it often does . Life is short text her and see what happens something if she fancies grabbing lunch or dinner .. she may say yes don’t leave it too long if it feels right just text

Just ask, what’s the worst that can happen? I’d already asked my GF out on a second date before we’d finished our first.

Gah you're all totally right. I just need to woman up.

I'm quite new to dating women and think I'm still influenced by a lifetime of dating men and expecting them to follow up on a successful first date. It's proving hard to shake that socialisation I guess.

I reaaaallyy want to see her again though so I need to have a word with myself and just do it.

Good luck!

I think that actually you need to be yourself, and not push yourself to do anything you're uncomfortable with. If she's good for you, and you're feeling reticent or nervous about stepping forward, then you'll find that her natural way of being will complement yours. You don't have to push yourself; between you, you'll get it sorted. And anyway, there's no rush. Why not leave it a day or two? She might pluck up the courage first. You don't need to rescue yourself from the certain disaster of losing her until it really looks like you might be losing her. Relax. Wait a bit. And stop calling yourself/your nature pathetic. We're all a bit shy and nervous sometimes.

I like the idea of suggesting something you would like to do and asking if she wants to come?

Yes suggest something you want to do and ask if she fancies joining you

Can't really ask her to join me for a casual thing as we live in different cities and both have insane schedules so meeting again would require planning in advance.

I have asked. She said something that gave me an opening to do so so it felt fairly natural and not shoehorned in.

Let's see what comes back. Wish me luck! Welp 🤣🙏

Oh good luck!

She said (a quite emphatic) yes 😆

Excellent news.

Hope you have a great second date.

Yay!! Hope it goes well for you both.

Excellent. Well done!

I’m in a similar position. Feel fairly sure she’ll say yes, but can’t cope with the possibility of no right now, feeling too fragile right now due to other reasons.