Need advice!

[StrawberryDaiquiri02]

19F, I have been sleeping with someone 24M. Feelings are involved but its long distance and not serious (he already said he isnt looking for anything like that). It is exclusive on my end however that was until i royally screwed up. Went out drinking last night with his best friend from where we live, and his friend's brother 30M. Me and the brother got blackout and we woke up shocked, can be presumed we slept together (also found out he has a girlfriend). He has already said he will not say anything but I am abit stuck on what to do because I do not want to lose this guy in case it could turn into something.

We have all done stupid stuff when drinking and I do not plan to be the bigger person in this situation, but I do know that if he finds out later down the line it will become so much worse. Is it even worth saying anything on the basis of me and the guy (30M) have said we will take it to the grave?

I do not want to lose this guy in case it could turn into something.

Yet,

Feelings are involved but its long distance and not serious (he already said he isnt looking for anything like that).

He's been clear that he isn't wanting a serious relationship with you. Believe him. If he did, you'd already know it. Don't waste your youth waiting around for something that isn't going to happen.

Look, it's not going to turn into something.

Unfortunately it's a big mistake we all make, not listening when a man tells you he doesn't want anything serious.

When they tell you they don't want anything serious, it 99% of the time means 'I do not want a relationship, with you, ever'.

This is not a you issue. Don't take it personally. But he's not that into you and that won't change. Sorry.

If you DO want a relationship with the person then they are not the person for you. You shouldn't carry on with them. You'll only get yourself hurt.

Bit awkward that you slept with his brother. Obviously you couldn't pursue a relationship with him under these circumstances, even if he were interested. I mean...imagine the family Christmases xD

And even if you did take the secret to your graves...could you call that love? To keep such a secret from your partner. To base your relationship on deceit?

These are all things you'll learn yourself in time but.. trying to save you the heartache, take our word on it!

Don't beat yourself up too much. You didn't know he had a gf. But...don't make the mistakes we all did! (Well...the not listening whe they say they arentbinto you...not the shagging of their brother...xD that is a doozey. But you'll laugh about it someday).

I think it was the way I worded the post it was not his brother but his best friend's brother xD and yes I have gotten myself into a very stupid situation.

I don't see it matters too much really as if he says he isn't looking for anything serious and you're the only one who sees it as exclusive you can guarantee you're not the only girl he's sleeping with.

Either two people are exclusive or they're not. You can't just be exclusive on your end.

Seeing as you're not exclusive, you haven't messed up. You really don't need to be beating yourself up over this.

You don't need to tell him because you don't owe it to him because you're not in a relationship.

I think you need to believe him that he isn't looking for anything serious, end the situationship, and find someone who can give you what you want.

So you're in a none exclusive, long distance not-relationship, and you slept with someone else?

What exactly is the problem? You are worried you've ruined your long term relationship chances with someone who has told you he doesn't want a long term relationship?