So frustrated

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I just want to shout and scream. I’m due to marry my BF in 3 months but I’m seriously having second thoughts.

I feel as if we don’t have much of a relationship anymore. We very rarely go to bed together as he’s always tired and I’m not. He very rarely hears me come to bed. We have sex around twice a week if he’s not too tired. He’s very overweight so always aching but won’t do nothing about it.

Before we lived together he used to be all over me, but now he’d rather sleep!!

Don't do it. Don't tie yourself down when you're already unhappy, this will not get better.

I agree. Dont just go along with it, have children, get resentful then divorce.

Seems like living together had resulted in you both taking each for granted or boredom. If you have doubts, better to postpone the wedding and have a honest conversation about your expectations and the loss of excitement. What is the reason for his weight gain? Is there is some physical or mental health issue? Urge him to go to the GP.

Anyone who’s been married a while will tell you that the little niggles will eventually become huge annoyances. Do not marry him. Please. I didn’t pay enough attention to the sex- I thought that other good qualities he had made up for the below par sex. They didn’t. Don’t become a statistic OP.

Think more than anything you need to have an upfront conversation about what is going on etc before any marriage etc goes on. Communication is key x

How old is he? Is there any reason for the tiredness - shift work etc? Is he getting his 8 hours?

You can't marry someone who is leaving you frustrated already, it's just not going to end well.

You need to talk to him, agree it's all about the communication.

I wouldn't be marrying someone who is 'very overweight'. If they don't take care of themselves now, they never will. It's setting yourself up to be someone's carer. That's if he doesn't have a heart attack at 45 a d leave you on your own with kids.