Friend making bitchy remarks

[Jellyfishfriend]

Met a friend for coffee today and she told me about a new series she was watching where a man’s girlfriend had cheated on him so in revenge, he told her he would sleep with her best friend and make her watch.

out of nowhere, she then said to me, ooh if your dp wanted to sleep with me, I’d have to say absolutely not, just no! I would not do that for you! All while laughing.

She then added that she wouldn’t do this for any of her family or friends as she doesn’t see their dps in a sexual way. Right, yes, I feel the same.

why the need for the bitchy comment though? She has form for being over competitive and rude

Well if she said she'd drop her knickers for your DP in a flash you'd have been fumin' about that as well. A stupid conversation to start on her part but not worth getting upset over.

I assume she was talking about Married at First Sight.

After watching that episode me and my mum were chatting about how weird the situation was and why this girl's friend even agreed to it. It sounds like your friend was just expressing the same thought, that she could never sleep with a friend's partner. I suppose it depends on how she said it but I'm not seeing how it's a bitchy comment to make.

I think since you’ve not seen the show then you’ve taken it the wrong way. What the guy did in the show was awful but it was claimed the girl did it for her friend.
What your friend was saying wasn’t nasty, she’s pointed out she isn’t attracted to her friends partners which is an okay thing to say. She’s not saying your dp will cheat on you. She’s just saying she wouldn’t do what happened on the show. My friends and I have all talked about it too as it was quite an outrageous thing the guy said and we all agreed we wouldn’t but it was just a matter of chatting about what we’d seen not claiming our friends partners would cheat.

What was bitchy about it?

Not sure where the bitchy comment was? Pointless comments yes but bitchy?

Do you mean somehow she was implying that she wouldn't be able to sleep with your dp because he was somehow beneath her/not up to a minimum standard?

She has form for being over competitive and rude

Do you like her/enjoy spending time with her? It may be the beginning of the end of the friendship if you're really noticing this kind of thing all the time from her.

The whole conversation sounded pointless. It seems like there's underlying issues and resentment though.

Why’s that bitchy? Think you need to explain it. You want her to pretend she fancies your partner?

Do you mean somehow she was implying that she wouldn't be able to sleep with your dp because he was somehow beneath her/not up to a minimum standard?

yes, this is how it felt

I mean that’s fine though isn’t it. I’d not shag any of my friends partners, they’d find that amusing,

is he really bad and you are sensitive about it?

I think I get you @Jellyfishfriend because I had a friend like this - would bring up random things for the purpose of putting me (or my DH or one of our mutual friends) down in some way. No idea why she did it (or other things), I know it wasn't just directed at me though. Once or twice occasionally you can dismiss as thoughtless but when you know...you know.

As your username suggests she is a jelly fisher - I don't keep friends like that now. One thing she loved to do was to share what someone else allegedly said (her teenage DC or her boyfriend) e.g. Pete said he just couldn't date someone with dark hair - says he's never met an attractive woman with dark hair (I have dark hair). Another one was I've never fancied anyone under 5'11' (she is short) - they're just not manly to me (my DH is 5'7'').

Often came with a little smirk (duper's delight) - I started to find it quite amusing but she was tedious company overall so...I bowed out gracefully and don't regret it.

You should have just told her she was perfectly safe because she really isn’t his cup of tea.