Girls jobs and break up follow on.

[georgiamae98]

So I've stayed at my mums for the last week as me and my partner had a big fall out of you look on my previous post a lot due to me not doing the girls jobs in the house "cooking/cleaning" when I work full time and we have a daughter.
He's now gone back in his word and makes out he can now see I am depressed and why I haven't pulled my weight (yet I 100% have just got a little overwhelming this last week or so) Yes I've been depressed for 5 years!
We've been in this cycle for the last 18 months yet all he can say is he has changed now and he feels differently.
I said I can't go home yet, i feel numb. he said he can't be my friend because we are supposed to be in a relationship. So what's the point in him trying to change.

But how do you go away from the relationship especially with a child involved. And with someone who can't possibly co parent or wait for a few weeks

Millions of women have done it and a lot of them are on here. They'll give you good advice.

I don't mean to come on here and be an inconvenience to anyone. Just would like to like you say it's a huge place, there must be someone who would chat.
As to not really sure how the app works yes I can start threads I just didn't get how to continue then or that that is what you are supposed to do. Sorry all I send my apologies and keep quiet from now on x

well that’s not going to help your child

Sorry, what do you mean by that?
I always do everything for my child and her father is great to her it's our relationship that is the problem.

A good father treats his children's mother well.

All anyone is going to tell you - on here or in real life - is to leave the arsehole you are with, particularly if you have a daughter. You will continue to be unhappy if you stay, and so will she.

Your depression can only be made worse by living with a man that has no empathy, doesn't care about you and treats you like shit, expecting you to do all the cooking and cleaning. He is neither your friend, nor your lover, and he basically cares nothing for you or he would be doing everything he could to support you.

And he's not. He won't change, because people don't. I was once married to a man like this.

I am now married to a man who when I have been ill has done all the cooking, all the cleaning, continued to work full time and been unfailingly kind, supportive and sympathetic towards me. Your partner is not suddenly going to become like this. People are ultimately who they are.

Thank you x