How long after a marriage separation to start dating?

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I separated from my ex DH 1 month ago. I’m 33. We didn’t have children and I want children (one of main reasons for split).

To start with, I know now is too soon! But I’d love to hear views on the ‘right’ time to put myself out there.

It’s still physically / logistically complicated at the moment and likely will be for another 2/3 months. Emotionally, it’s obviously sad and doesn’t bring me any joy - but the marriage was terminal for a while, and I feel very strangely ok about it all and looking forward to a new life.

There is a (single) guy who is a friend of mine who over the last couple of weeks I’ve developed a massive crush on but I don’t know if this is all just me projecting. There are also of course dating apps etc.

thanks!

Get on with it!

Single guy sounds a big rebound. My friend has been separated for about 4 months and recently got back in the saddle. She has children that are all young adults. She had a lot of fun for a couple of weeks with a fling she met on a night out. But that’s was it. If you go for single guy look at it as this may be what it is.

Just be safe and use rock solid contraception when you do saddle up again. A couple of my friends panicked mid thirties and had children with men they never ever should have. We are all in our fifties now and what bloody disasters those relationships were. One lasted 10 years and their poor child has anxiety due to the atmosphere in that house. The other is now attempting to separate and it’s going to get nasty as her husband doesn’t want to.

I would want to ‘date’ single guy not just a one off shag with him (feelings go beyond physical + although he’s not my best friend ever he’s still
my friend so a ONS wouldn’t be worth losing the friendship) but happy to accept that something happening this quickly after a marriage breakup probably wouldn’t end up being happily ever after.

I am not sure if he reciprocates my feelings but suspect even if he did he’d have no interest in me THIS soon though, but maybe in a couple of months…