Googling actresses naked

[Beebythesea21]

My husband is amazing, but resently I've seen he's been googling what various actress look like naked, and it's really knocked my self esteem. And now I'm lying awake panicking that he doesn't find me attractive and needs to look at other women to get turned on. It's putting me off watching some shows as I'm thinking he will be googling them naked or thinking about them naked. I don't know really how to broach the subject as it's really my fault for looking in his search history. I'm assuming this is something hes always done that I've not been aware of, but now I am aware I can't stop thinking about it. It's just so alien to me. I've only really bothered with porn when I was single or in an unhappy relationship, so it's just not something I would think of doing as I'm pretty happy.

Well I mean its a bit grim. But maybe he was just being a silly bugger one evening.

I'd prefer they were doing this to porn I think.
Well maybe not, suppose its a bit of a privacy invasion.

Unless there's been other issues I don't think I'd worry about it.

I think you need to decide what you want out of any conversation with him before you open it because otherwise its one of those things that is likely to just go around in circles.

What do you want?

Reassurances he finds you attractive? Will that be enough? Or will it leave you with questions of why does he do it then?

Promises he won't do it again? He's likely to continue doing it in secret (eg delete search history/private browsing)

Is it a deal breaker for you? Would you end the relationship over it?

Will you tie yourself in knots for years trying to be ok with it when you're not? Is it going to damage your self esteem? Wil you just brace yourself against it?

If he says it's idle curiosity and a bit of voyeuristic nosiness but means nothing, will you believe him? He's unlikely to admit it's 'one for the bank' but, if he does, will you be ok with that?

Some people would genuinely be ok with it and others would try to be/pretend they are ok with it even though they weren't for the sake of the relationship.

What do you hope to get out of broaching it?

That's what I'd be asking myself.