Girlfriend behaviour towards daughter

[Dominic1990]

Hi some advice…

long story short me and gf live together have baby once gf got pregnant the way she was with my daughter changed she has never developed any bond and criticisers her a lot. Daughter is now 9yo our baby son is 11 months. We nearly split due to way she was with my daughter then after coming to blows we both said we try again and put in more effort. My daughter struggles with sever anxiety and I Beleive this is making it worse, she know aknoleges her says hello and asks her how school is.

today I bought my daughter a cookie from Millie’s cookies before we get her from school and then my gf was not happy about this saying I didn’t buy my son one ( I thought he a bit young ) and then I apologised and asked if we can stop talking about it and she carry’s on all way to school and then says I’m just dropping you here you can find your own way back while it’s raining. It is 1.5-2 hour bus ride for me
to get back. Was I in the wrong ?

I feel like I am questioning myself all the time lately, I bring up a issue or how I feel about something then I’m made to feel crazy.

I'd be interested in hearing the back story too as my ex used to accuse me of "hating" his kids either as a way to pressure me into doing the majority of the childcare or as a way to dodge valid criticism of his poor parenting.

I now take these sort of comments with a massive pinch of salt.

I'd be interested to see if the op is leaving her to care for both kids must of the time or favoring the older child and ignoring the younger on a regular basis.

Trouble is nobody asked you for contraceptive advice so maybe mind your own business on that.

Interesting how when a woman is abusive it must be the man's fault.

Please, please prioritise your precious daughter over this vile woman and leave.

please please put your daughter first and get rid of this woman. sounds to me like its a lot worse than you know for your daughter,

I have a cautionary tale as this sounds so familiar. My dad has a similar partner. The start of the relationship was cheating but that aside as I knew nothing of that til a teenager, I was 8 when they officially got together. She was so jealous of his relationship with us. Was passive aggressive, to downright cruel at times. Cut to 26 years later, my sister hasn't spoken to my dad for 12 years after a fallout directly caused by her, couldn't give her away as wasn't at her wedding, he doesn't see two of his grandkids, and now her own daughter has cut her off too so out of 7 grandkids he sees a grand total of one, mine. I don't see his partner either, haven't for 11 years as she adds nothing to my life whatsoever and lifes too short to suffer fools. Makes everything awkward and difficult, but that's the price he paid for staying with a woman who thought it was OK to express anything but support to innocent kids.