Example: he helps his dad redo his flat all the time which I appreciate because it’s his dad and he’s not very well and a bit old and that. I really like his dad. But we’ve been supposed to move in together since the end of last year but haven’t because he hasn’t cleaned and fixed and tidied the flat. Even yesterday he said he’s get the new cooker ‘tomorrow’. You carry heavy things across London for your dad but can’t keep the same energy to fix our flat?
the other one just happened now: he rarely sees me and our son, maybe twice a week or so for a few hours. He’s CONSTANTLY walking his neighbour’s dog though. And she lives fairly close to me. You have time to go to the park with a dog twice a day but don’t have time to go with your son once a week? He barely knows this old lady. I texted this to him (more politely) and his reply was just ‘you’re not jealous of the dog are you?’ Which I think was gaslighting and mocking.
He’s supposed to be doing our flat but every time I talk to him, he’s never there, always with his dad. It’s not going to fix itself. I feel like I come last with everything.