Is this child court order (UK) normal? Trying to understand if my ex is a threat to me

[Littleloss]

I’m trying to get some info on my ex partner (some of you may have seen my previous post) because I’m starting to get concerned around behaviour towards me and if this is something that was in his previous marriage. Basically he has a child and he had to go to court for access. The court order says hand over at each others houses, unless the mother does not feel safe in which case hand over is in a public defined place. Is the standard wording in a court order (UK), or is there a reason this would be specifically added? His ex has made some claims against him in the past, but nothing was proven. Thanks!

If you have concerns go to the police.

Do you have children together?

We don’t have a child together no. We have broken up and I have made a Clare’s law request, he has not been physically abusive to me, but I feel I was emotionally abused. But I am aware his ex made some claims (never proven) after they seperated. So I am wondering if the court order like that is normal, or if it means something more went on and I should be concerned now. I have nothing to go to the police with right now

Do you know her well enough to contact her to discuss?

I don’t know her at all. But I have debated reaching out to her on Facebook, but I don’t want to cause a bigger problem

Do a Clare's law request- if the police have record of domestic violence they'll tell you.

Same for Sarah's law if you're worried about your own children

Do doesn’t have this in his court order. Using school as a 3rd party can be more normal as it can often be a lot easier on the child.

In my experience, there is no 'standard wording' for child arrangement orders, they're all just drafted quickly based on what gets said/agreed in court. So the bit about hand over in public if the mother doesn't feel safe is probably nothing more than what you already know - she's made claims about him in the past and they're unproven (to civil or criminal standard). If she made/repeated those claims in court then it makes sense that the court order would have that wording as a matter of course. It's certainly not evidence that anything was ever proven against him.

As you've split up from him it's all completely irrelevant to you now anyway, so no need to worry about anything that might or might not have happened in his past at all. Just make a clean break and don't look back.