What do I say

[BePearlQuoter]

So my partner is wanting too paint my daughters room so badly because I had bought paint for her room . I use to have a cscs card myself a few years back in painting and decorating and he had done p&d too but hasn’t had a cscs card in that he had just done cash in hand jobs with his friend if he was doing painting a decorating . How do I tell him I don’t want him painting her room because he thinks he’s really good at it but he really isn’t and not in a rude way he is absolutely terrible . He painted my walls but it doesn’t look right and paint has gone everywhere on my garden door and same with my cupboards he’s painted them but a lot of it has splattered on to the wall 😩😬 . I had kept telling him I will paint my daughters room it’s ok and he kept saying he will do it he knows what he’s doing lol

Why can’t you be honest and just say he hasn’t done a great job of the other decorating so you’d rather do it yourself? If he is offended, show him what you’ve described here.

Just get on and do it yourself.

I think if you can't say 'I actually want to do it myself', and be respected in that decision, you have a bigger problem than who paints a room.

This!
Does he get offended easily? Invalidate the things you say? Get angry when his faults are pointed out?
I can't imagine being afraid to tell my partner that he messed up something he did around the house. You just tell him.

Yep he really does get offended easily . I wouldn’t say angry but today for example he starts to go quiet on me after saying I know what I’m doing but says it like he’s annoyed and just puts me in a bad mood after because of the way he goes about it

Of course most definitely

Do what you do, and stay away from those who don't like it.

The only caveat to this is to check that you're ok with your own actions, if loads of people don't like it. Otherwise, assume that your own natural actions are ok (this is self acceptance) and that anybody who doesn't like them is entitled not to like them.

You can't change anything here. You're not doing anything wrong. If he doesn't like it, he needs to talk to you about why, so that you can reach an understanding, or he needs to take responsibility for himself and spend his time with someone who doesn't offend him so much. If you don't like it, you need to do the same.

Doesn't sound like a very nice bloke tbh.

Do you really want to continue to date a sulking man child?

If you're walking on egg shells, frightened to say no to someone then they're probably not someone to have around you.

It's often where abuse starts fyi.

This was actually an early indicator with the abusive ex. He wanted to help me paint my bedroom, and insisted he didn't need to do all the things my dad taught me to do (loosen/masking tape light switches and light fixtures, skirtings etc). I KNEW he was wrong, but let him carry on, for many of the same reasons you are talking about (but anger rather than silent treatment).

Of course, there was paint in all the wrong places, and he insisted 'yeah, that's normal, we remove it with a razor blade' (he was a builder). He never did.

When I finally dumped him I replaced the fittings.

Your daughter deserves better, and so do you.