Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Husband issuss

3 replies

Helpamamaout24 · 14/03/2024 20:22

Any advice welcome. I’m currently 6 months pregnant and already have a 5 five year old with my husband. Things have been really up and down from my perspective I am so fed up with my husband's lack of shared responsibilities. The last few instances thst have blown up have resulted in me asking for help for something, multiple times and he continues to either sit on his phone or watch tv, to which I eventually erupt and admittidly, lose the plot infront of our child. I am by no means proud of this and have become really upset by how I am reacting for my child to see, but I am at the end of my tether with him and his selfish ways of needing to be begged, repeatedly asked to do things we both have responsibilities for. Tonight for example I was trying to sort homework, dinner and uniform
etc for tomorrow. Asked dh to run bath 3 times despite saying an hour previously it was Bath night and he knows bath is his thing and when it happens. Bath was ran after 3 asks, and 30mins later I asked why was the child not in bath. He was watching football and
said bath would be done after football, bear in mind this 7:45pm at night, waiting for him for a 5 year old child. Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed? This is just one example, generally he sits on his phone most nights and never dreams of helping for bed etc. Im literally at breaking point now and I dont like the person I am when I react. He doesnt ever see any issues and says its me reacting that stops him doing it. Its the same pattern and I cant get through to him at all, which makes me react how I do.

OP posts:
Farmwifefarmlife · 14/03/2024 20:35

Sorry I can’t offer much advice but I am in the same boat! Posting for support hugs

I love to cook and cook every evening from scratch DH is supposed to wash up but never does I feel it’s really unfair I cook 3x meals a day and wash up 3x a day! DH will also overlook things, bin over flowing, recycling carrier full ect but he will never do these jobs I’m infuriated atm have two DC and I am also pregnant.

MsRosley · 14/03/2024 23:27

Stop doing things for him. Stop cooking, doing his laundry, etc. Just look after yourself and your child. When he complains, tell him that his behaviour is completely unacceptable, and that if he doesn't agree to sit down and have an adult, constructive conversation about who does what, then you will be divorcing him. Men like your husband will take the piss until they are absolutely forced to stop.

In the longer term, you may have to accept that he doesn't care about you very much, and is happy to have someone skivvying themselves into the ground. You may be very much happier if you do actually divorce him.

Hbosh · 15/03/2024 11:09

What's the point of being married to him.
What value does he bring to your life?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread