Getting over an affair

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I have separated from my husband after his inappropriate relationship with another woman. (Still denied as an affair)

Anyone who has been through this- when does it get easier?

I suppose it's when you have allowed yourself to grieve and have started the work on yourself. Loving yourself and finding a new you post marriage. It feels lonely, there's so much anger. But it does get better. Immerse yourself in things you like and love. Minimal contact with him. Get your ducks in a row for practical things, like the financial order. Mostly, take charge of your life now. Hugs to you

I'm in this boat and I'm finding it very hard. Found out my husband was having an affair, and we've had a year of should we try again. Finally decided I was ready and he decided he doesn't want to try anymore.

I've just turned 50. I feel my dreams of a lovely retirement are in pieces, both financially and emotionally. I have lovely friends but they're (quite rightly) busy with their partners and families at weekends. I've had a look at OLD and it seems to be lots of men that look 20 years older or sleaze bags. Not that you can tell from a photo which is partly the problem, although I can't really face dating if I'm honest.

I went away to a lovely hotel by the sea in one of my favourite places last weekend. I felt so lonely and miserable, everyone was having meals with their partners and the days felt endless.

I have two teenagers (and work) but I feel like there's nothing of value left to live for and I'm going through each day like a zombie. I know its totally pathetic of me. I was a strong person but splitting up after 25 years of marriage has destroyed me. Sorry, that's not the message of hope you're probably after...

As soon as it becomes clear to you that he doesn't love you, and you deserve to be loved. In my case, it was liberating, I enjoy freedom, independence and feel sorry for women who are stuck in marriages knowing husband doesn't love them, cheating, and would probably have divorced them ages ago if it wasn't for financial and other convenience. I have a grown up DC and don't want to get married anymore. I have my friends and DC to keep my company should I need one, I never feel lonely as there so much to do (reading, listening to music, learning new languages, learning to paint, the list is endless).
blue345 - I witnessed both married and single women seeking the attention of the bosses, so clearly having a partner to go on holidays with doesn't make them happy