Losing the one you love

[MrNostalgia]

Hi, my ex and I broke up over Christmas. I was devastated and am just now starting to recover. We have not been in contact bar a message I received that I passed on to her. She replied politely.
She is a peaceful, balanced person. Good career.Whereby I was the one who caused the issues with piecemeal jobs and had not functioned as a partner should after we moved to the country. Was on antidepressants for a year.
I have been to my GP and see my therapist every week and starting to improve.
I'm aware that it's a big,big long shot but wonder if you think I improve myself to be happier in myself and job, do you think she might see me differently? When do think I should make contact?...if at all. We were together 6 years and are both in our 50?
Thanks for reading.

Be the best version of yourself. Approach her next Christmas. Then accept her decision and move on knowing you tried. You'll be in a better position either way.

Did she dump you?

How would it enhance her life to date you again? Like, what do you have to offer? How would she know you won't revert back to form even if she did date you again? (Not to answer, just to consider)

Did you not find your previous thread about this woman helpful?
Always better to move forward in life, not go backwards.

I guess she will see that it was my depression and mental health that caused me to deteriorate and my actions or lack of action were symptoms of that.
I'm a big boy and made my choices, but I think a lot of changes happened in a short space of time - which I haven't mentioned-which took its toll on me. I understand that someone still doesn'tthave to be with someone who is depressed if they don't want to, of course.

I think you shouldn’t make contact.

If she wasn’t worth doing the work whilst you were in the relationship then she wasn’t worth it, and you aren’t entitled to have a relationship with her as some prize for the process you’re doing.

The changes have to be for you, and you alone. Surely the function of therapy is you learn to be happy with yourself as you are.

I also don't think you should contact her. Continue with your therapy/counselling and and with working on yourself to make the changes needed for you to feel happy and at peace with yourself. It's early days yet since you split up and you don't want to undo all the good work you've been doing by reopening old wounds.