Told him multiple times + vile comment

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For 6 years I have been telling my husband what upsets me and last night was breaking point .

I've been faithful for 16 years .
Still I get accused.

After another argument, I told him I'll talk in morning as he clearly had alcohol ( denied obviously)
He went out.

I messege him good night , don't wake me up and he normally doesn't.

I was woken up ( I didn't react or show I was awake )
He came in and yanked the sheets said it stinks in here ( I thought is my breath that bad ).

He said it it stinks of P**sy impliling I had been masterbating
I hadn't I was knackered from work and had my child up late.

That was my final breaking point .
I'm disgusted by him.

Don't waste your life waiting for him to change. Also don't let him call the shots, he's said he needs to think what he wants so just tell him you've been thinking too and this isn't what you want anymore and ask him to leave. This is no way to live and not the example you'd want your children growing up with.

You MUST end it before he gets the satisfaction of declaring you over. Don't give him that upper hand! Wait until he leaves the house, pack his bags and chuck them outside. Then lock doors with key in the lock on the inside.
Yes, I know if he owns the house then OP can't legally keep him out of it long term but for now, for the safety of the kids, it's the best option.

Even if he hasn't ever been violent or aggressive, if he has a drink problem then there's every chance that ending it with him in the house with you, could cause him to turn violent or aggressive.