Has anyone been in a relationship / married to someone who does the bare minimum around the house. He'll cook tea every now and then, and will put the children to bed. But everything else, tidying, cleaning, all mental load is left to me.
His clothes don't even make it in to the wash basket, so I don't wash them anymore.
He will do some of the DIY around the house, but only if I ask / tell him it needs doing. But again it's something else I have to think about.
On the weekend, he gets up anytime between 9:30am and midday. Unless I ask him to take the kids to a match / party.
Everything is my job, unless I ask him to do it, and it's often met with complaints.
We got a cleaner because he wasn't contributing, but it's not really working when he doesn't tidy up after himself.
I work full time, and the children have various activities after school which means we're often not home until after 7.
Has anyone lived this and been able to find a solution?
For clarity he does have a chronic illness which he's had for a couple of years, and reason he gives for not contributing. But imo his behaviour hasn't changed since being diagnosed, and his medication treats the illness really well.
Other than separating, has anyone found a solution?!