My boyfriend of 2 years keep coming up with these small piddly annoying lies.
Things like telling me he's meal prepped but then I see a pizza box in his house next day and he goes 'Oh I did order pizza but didn't want to tell you'. I know he's struggling with his weight and there's a shame factor.
Or his mum tells me they were on the phone while he told me he's working out.
His lies are mainly by ommision and to impress/make himself look better. I feel bad because I think he lacks self esteem. His dad used to beat him up also whenever he thought he was lying so it didn't help either I'm guessing.
I don't like taking mental notes of everything he says and I'm also worried that this is an indicator of a wider problem. He seems to be a habitual liar and what if he lies about bigger stuff? What if he already has?
I told him this was a big deal for me and to be transparent with me going forward. I asked if I was not giving him space to feel safe enough to express his authentic self but he says it's just a bad habit since childhood that he's trying to better and nothing to do with me.
Would this be a deal breaker for you?