Has anyone ever called rape crisis? And if so, what happened?

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As title says. I'm really struggling with heavy feelings of guilt and shame, about something that happened a few years ago. It wasn't rape though, although I was coerced. I think I want to make sense of what happened to me .. I was made (by him) to believe it was all my fault and that I was asking for it, and I want to know if it really was my fault or not. I have spoken to a counsellor before and because they are connected to my work (it was my colleague that did it/it happened with) I got the impression they didn't really want to go into it with me. Would I be wasting their time if I called rape crisis? Has anyone ever called them when it wasn't rape but you still didn't consent? If so what happened?
Sorry if I'm not being clear.. my head is all over the place,

I haven't ever called them, but I wanted to bump your thread up and hopefully someone will have some answers.

I hope you're as ok as you could be x

Thanks. Perhaps I posted in the wrong section.

I think you can buy try OP.

I’m so sorry to read about what happened to you.

It’s fair to say if you didn’t consent then some would argue that is rape.

I volunteer for Rape Crisis OP, do give your local branch a call, that's what they are there for. There is no threshold and the person at the other end of the phone will understand, I promise. You will be able to have a chat and they can let you know what services they offer and wait times if you'd like to discuss some councelling in the future with them. Please don't hesitate, we never judge and you will never be wasting our time.

I think the answer might be that you have a long wait for help, sadly. Where I live the wait is so long that, with the new round of defunding they have actually closed the list to new referrals, unbelievable as that seems.

Please do try though, you don't have anything to lose.

Rape is one way of subjectively framing what's happened to you. I think a lot of women can be confused about what to call a thing. Basically you've had a sexual experience that has left you upset and that you didn't consent to.
You are exactly the demographic that Rape Crisis is there for.
I hope you get the support you need.

I contact my local rape crisis and they were amazing, they send someone out to me to talk and offered me support. I reported my ex for rape, sadly it didn’t get to court and he went on to abuse a child. Call them and talk to someone, I also had counselling through my gp.

I did and they were excellent. Really understanding and empathetic initial call, then I was referred for counselling which unfortunately never came about due to long queues then a house move to a different area. They did, however, provide a list of recommended therapists who specialise in sexual violence victims who you can speak to on a paid basis. It takes some of the guesswork out of finding a reliable one if you want to do that and can fund it yourself. The lady I went to was great. You're not there to prove the man's guilt of a particular act. it's about how the experience affected you and what they can do with their resources to help (admittedly these are not unlimited but there is good online info etc too that you may not have seen). 💐

Thanks for the responses. I had a look at the resources on the website which were useful. I also cried for the first time since it happened which was good. (I've really struggled to let myself cry). I may pluck up the courage to call them at some point but for now I feel somewhat better. Not sure how long I can go on with the feelings though and wish they would just go away.

It might be helpful to talk to someone and get your thoughts out. It must be really playing on your mind.

OP, pick up the phone, don't wait until you are really struggling with things. If you don't want to, you don't have to yell the person on the other end of the phone what happened, but it might help you if you find out what help there is available. The wait lists tend to be quite long unfortunately so it might be worth being prepared.

I used to volunteer for them, and before that phoned them a few times for my own stuff. Definitely call if you feel you need to. I would take calls about everything on the sexual abuse and harassment spectrum. Although, from what you describe, it does sound like what you went through was rape. Coerced sex is rape.

Wishing you all the best OP