Update on my relationship

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So my boyfriend and me have been living together and just got a new apartment. He now says he loves me and still wants to make it work even though we have been arguing. However he says for a bit he wants to live separately and he will move back in after things improve as for now he needs space. He says he doesn’t want me to move out however he wants to live alone for a bit until he’s sure that things can work between us. This is scaring me a bit because it feels like a huge step back in our relationship. He suggested maybe I go to my mum for a bit however me and my mum don’t keep in contact much as our relationship has never been good and my mum already said to me that she doesn’t want me to come back home. I’m confused as he’s telling me he wants to make it work just wants to take a step back. Do you think that this is a huge disadvantage to this relationship or do you think taking some space will help us build our relationship back

Yeah he wants to end your relationship but hasn't the balls to say it to your face. He's a coward.

I would be willing to be a hundred pounds that within a month of you moving out he will say he doesn't want you moving back. Relationships are like sharks, they have to keep moving forward or they die.

Is this apartment rented or bought? In whose name?

He wants to take a step back, he moves out. Easy.

Sounds like he wants to be single but is a coward.

Tell him to move out - why should you?

It's over, but he doesn't want a scene or to look like he's making you homeless.
So sorry op x

He wants to end it, he doesn't have the nerves to say it and once you have had some time apart he will probably just say he's happier that way

Sorry I also agree. How can you work on it if you're not together? He definitely is letting you down 'gently' (the irony). Unless its his own house, do not move out - he can move out.

Listen to The Beautiful South

A Little Time.

You'll see what he's up to. Sorry OP.

He's talking shite. How dare he do this after you've already moved in together. Tell him if he goes he can stay gone.

If he wants space he should be the one to leave.

Have you bought the apartment together or is it rented? Is it in joint names?

Bin him and get on with your life. You're not right for each other and you deseve better.

If you’ve been arguing a lot then I think it’s sensible to have some space from each other and reevaluate things.

If things carry on the way they are, you’re likely to separate.

If you have some space then it could go either way.

It definitely needs to be him moving out if he’s the one who wants the space.

Do not leave unless you are officially separated.

If you don't currently have anywhere to go, don't move out until you find somewhere. Get looking asap, he wants to end this, he just hasn't found the words yet so it's only a matter of time.
What have you been arguing about? If the flat is in his name, he always ment to move in on his own, he just feels guilt about making you homeless. Don't leave temporarily because he won't allow you to come back.

Not everyone works well living with their partner. It is possible to have a successful relationship where you live separately if that is what you both want. If you want to live with a partner, then you are more than entitled to end this relationship because it does not meet your needs.

Hes ending the relationship but like a coward.
He probably met someone else and seeing how that pans out before he properly ditches you.
Tell him no you wont be doing that..space stuff and the relationship is done .