Online dating nightmare

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I separated from my husband of 20 years over a year ago, have 2 young children and am a primary school teacher. I thought I would give online dating a go, one of my friends are on it and they said I should try it, I have always been really anxious about using these sites with my job role, anyway I downloaded Bumble and created a profile was only on the site about half an hour before panicking and deleting the profile as I was worried I had shared to much personal information on there and now I am really worried about any of the parents been on the site and seeing my profile or it affecting my job in anyway, am I over thinking this?

Totally overthinking it yes.

My sister is a teacher and had this issue so she put up pics where it wasn’t obvious it was her, like looking down etc, didn’t stop men messaging her but just how much personal info are you sharing on your dating profile as you shouldn’t be doing that anyway? My sister is a secondary school teacher though so very different as don’t really see the parents much or at all. Just meet men out of the area?

Yes, definitely!

It sounds like you might need the paid version so you only show up to people you've swiped on.

If you want to use it again, that is.

Yes, you're totally overthinking it. Online dating is just a niche form of social media. So what if someone recognises you on there? Obviously, don't put any personal details on your profile.

Yes definitely overthinking.

if you did want to try OLD, as a PP mentioned, Bumble premium allows you to use incognito mode whereby your profile isn’t public and only people who you like can see your profile.

Thanks so much for the replies, I just put that I worked in education and had 2 children and was separated as they were the options I selected but I’m just worried about the location showing up I didn’t really put much in the personal profile bit just that I liked going for walks spending time with family and enjoyed a good pub crawl haha, that sort of thing but think maybe the paid version might be best if I ever feel brave enough to try again 🙈 I just feel terrible toady that I may have somehow depordised my job in some way

Well we don't know what you wrote but sounds like you're overthinking.

If you put 'fabulous arse and an open mind. Contact Miss if you've been a naughty boy and need the cane' then yes, that's too much but it's deleted now.

Just pay for incognito mode and use a totally innocuous profile and pics. Play it safe with photos, no swimwear etc. stuff you'd be happy to show in public.

You're allowed a private life. Not sure why the parents would be bothered beyond maybe idle chat.

Haha 😂 that made me laugh yes i definitely won’t be putting anything like that

Cross post!

Sounds fine but I might change pub crawl for pub walk or country pubs. People will know you mean 'i enjoy a few jars on occasion' but it looks a bit more respectable!

Honestly don't see how this would be an issue re employment. I saw loads of teachers on OLD. You haven't referenced the school or put anything to bring them or yourself into disrepute.

Not sure How your location settings will work as it's been a while since in was on bumble but maybe you can set it for the next town along?

IME, men don't often read the profile - on one site, I filled in the bare minimum it allowed to let me open an account, and I've had at least as much interest as on other sites. So if I go back to it, I won't make so much effort on my profile. It's important to take breaks from OLD, though.

(Women do read the profiles, a point not all men have taken on board.)

I'm a teacher, too, and was hesitant about using OLD. A friend pointed out that yes, someone seeing my profile will know that I'm looking for a relationship, but where's the shame or harm in that? If you actually match with a parent, that's a bit trickier to handle, but I wouldn't worry about people seeing your profile.