Odd feeling of texts

[SillyExpert]

What would you do if you saw notifications pop up on wife’s phone from male friend that were first thing in the morning and also ones flash up saying things like “stunning and you look amazing”. I know selfies have been sent and pictures of things like legs whilst waxing…..something just feels a bit odd.

been married 8 years, together 12 and have 3 kids of 3, 5 and 8.

wouldn’t think wife would do anything untoward, may just be naivety as has many male friends and thinks nothing of it but I know full well if it was the other way there would be an inquest although I wouldn’t dont and haven’t ever been in that position of sending and receiving such

I'm a great believer in trusting your instincts. It feels odd so I would question it directly and express your feelings.

I wouldn't like that one bit myself and I consider myself open minded.

It would be a no from me.

No from me too and Im more relaxed than many. But that's not on.

No from me too.

I wouldn't do it whilst in a relationship but I might if I were single and flirting.

At the very least, she's enjoying the attention and flattery. I wouldn't accept it from a partner either. I'd initiate a conversation but I can't imagine what explanation would make me say, "Oh, OK. Fair enough. That's fine!"

You may not think she’d be the type to do anything untoward but you’d be wrong, it seems. Her ‘friendship’ is inappropriate at best and an emotional affair at worst.

Hhhhmmm it’s a bit much in my opinion. What is your relationship like and do you have any romance with having 3 kids?

wouldn’t think wife would do anything untoward

Isn't she already doing something untoward..?

I have male friends and wouldn't send them selfies or photos of my bare legs whilst having a wax. Also, if for any reason I did do that, my friend(s) would be probably respond with something like "get them to do your back whilst you're there" or something they find hilarious. They certainly wouldn't reply with "stunning" or "you look amazing!".

I would say this is hugely inappropriate for a male / female "friendship" when one or both parties is married...

She might have no intention of doing anything but she's clearly getting a kick from getting messages from other blokes about her attractiveness, which is a big flag.

You need to tell her you've seen them and talk